How to Initiate a Conversation with a Woman You’ve Never Met Before

by Bridget Webber in Relationships, January 25, 2009

There may be times when you see a woman that you would love to start a conversation with and get to know better, but you are stuck for words. Here are some openers to break that ice barrier.

Initiating a conversation with a stranger can be difficult. This is especially so if the stranger is a member of the opposite sex and you are feeling tongue tied, unable to think of anything to say.

As a man you may also be concerned about approaching a woman that you haven’t been introduced to in case she sees you as predatory, and gives you the brush off.

The best way to start a conversation is to talk about something that is going on around you both, so that the conversation is natural and doesn’t begin with a mass produced chat up line.

Steer clear of mentioning anything about her appearance. This is way too personal at such an early stage and she may see it as a turn off. Even mentioning that she has a nice smile is out, because you can bet your bottom dollar that shes heard that one before and you will be seen as being just another admirer to get rid of before you’ve had a chance to show your true colors.

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If possible talk about something which you think that you may have in common. If you are shopping, for example, and see her pick out an item that you like too from the shelf you could open the conversation with that.

Or, if you are both walking by a beautiful sunset or an amazing scented plant, you also have ideal fodder to begin talking by mentioning this.

Another point to remember is that what you say should be a question, rather than a statement. If you don’t phrase what you say in such a way that requires an answer she may just smile and move on.

Saying, ‘I just love sunsets, dont you too?’ is far better than saying, ‘What a beautiful sunset.’ This way she is left to contemplate what you have said and to think of an answer to give you. This means that you will have formed a little connection on which you can build.

If the woman in question doesn’t respond then chalk it up to experience and move on. It probably means that shes unavailable or just not interested.

When you do move on though, dont begin saying the exact same thing to the next woman who passes by. Wait until you spot a woman who you have a good feeling about, and say something new.