How to Know If You are in a Relationship or Friendship Part1

A lot of ladies and gentlemen have had their hopes dashed in pieces just when they realized that the long years of hugs and kisses, parties and dates were just mere Friendship. It hurts a lot, especially when these individuals think they were on their road map to a colorful wedding and a ‘happily ever after life’. I have been able to put together some few pointers to help to check if you are in a friendship or relationship.

1. Love: The first point of call is the issue of Love. Do you Love him? Does She Love You? Love is a vital ingredient in any relationship or friendship, but the level of love attached to a relationship is often more deeper and emotional than friendship. Never assume you are in a relationship, at certain intervals in time, always ask your partner why you two are moving together and what he or she wants from you. That way, you save yourself any future embarrassment.
2. Secrecy: Friends would often want to tell each other the truth, but our intimacy is often disclosed to our loved one because of the high sense of trust we have in them to keep our secrets secret. If your partner cannot keep your secrets secret, then he or she is no better than a friend, or if he or she uses your secrets as a means to threaten or take advantage of you, then he or she could be considered an enemy. On the other hand, someone you are in a relationship with should not have too many secrets kept from you; you should know him or her fairly and should not have to discover most things yourself.
3.  Sacrifice: Friends will always be friends but when it comes to the issue sacrifice, most friends would often appear to make a sacrifice for you when it’s convenient or beneficial to them. In a relationship situation, it becomes more trivial as your partner would more than often be willing to make a sacrifice on your behalf, even at his or her own expense. The issue of sacrifice must not be an avenue for going totally out of our ways; a certain lady once used her tuition fee to help her partner and got sent out of school because she owed, that was way out of what a sacrifice is. In sacrificing, we must learn to always be at our best without killing ourselves, because if we kill ourselves while doing trying to be our best, we wouldn’t live to see our best.
4. Patience: Patience could also be considered in line with endurance, it’s about waiting, believing and trusting someone or your partner. When you are in a relationship, your partner would be patient enough for you as pertaining marriage, sex, your education, health, job, finance etc. friends cannot wait any longer than what keeps you both together; that’s why we often have more friends at a time than we can lovers.