How to Know If You are Ready to Marry

There are at least five things that you should consider before you say the big words, “I Do”.

1. Do you know yourself?Marriage should not be entered into to find yourself. Remember, marriage leads to the joining together of two (man and woman) to become one. If your identity is still uncertain, please do not enter marriage  trying to find yourself. When you prepare to marry, you should be a whole person not one in search of identity. Find out what you want in life. Determine what your likes and dislikes are in general. What career choices do you have? Are you satisfied with the way that you look & feel. It is so…important that on your wedding day, you reveal a confident and whole person.

2. What is your financial status? If you are broke and the person that you are marrying is broke. You are heading towards a broken marriage. Finances or should I say the lack there of, is one of the leading causes of divorce. If you are not financially secure, wait until you and your fiance are financially sound. Oh, please do not spend all of your money on the wedding. It is not smart to go into marriage with great debt behind a one day affair. Remember, you have to live financially beyond the wedding day.

3. Do you have good communication with your fiance?  If there is a communication barrier, look out!! Communication takes at least two people conveying a message and both persons receiving the message. If you are talking to your fiance and he or she is not listening and does not value your input. It is not going to change in a marriage. Work on the communication skills before you walk down the aisle.

4. What is your fiance’s medical status? Well, your life could be at stake. If he or she loves you, they will be willing to do whatever it takes to assure you that all is well. The ideal thing would be to marry a virgin and you yourself being one as well. In this day and time that is very rare. You have to be specific about your previous relationships. That is why sex before marriage is a terrible practice. Everything that the last person deposited into your body someway or somehow transfer over to the next person. Be committed and wait until your wedding night. But before you say, “I do”, check the medical status. If they refuse to reveal all information, you may need to walk away from him or her.

5. Where are you spiritually? If you are not spiritually strong, it could be difficult days ahead and you are going to need God in your life. You need to ask the Lord if the person that you want to marry is the person that he wants you to marry. Now I can only speak from a Christian perspective. Having Christ in your life will be a blessing for you and your new spouse. Spiritual guidance will be readily availble at your church with your pastor. Problems will arise, but through Christ you will be able to overcome every issue.

If you can truthfully examine the top five questions, you will know for sure if it is time to say, “I do”.