How to Know When Your Partner is Lying

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We would definitely like to know when we are lied upon.  It is certainly not cool to be lied upon once, what more if it is repeated.  Body language and eye contact are like 2 most important factors that one has to look out for.  When your partner lies, try to look at her or his body language.  What is it saying?  Is it hunched and low while telling the ‘lie’, or sitting upright and looking you straight in the eye?  If your partner looks you directly in the eye without blinking, that is kind of funny too.  And if your partner keeps looking away while relating the ‘lie’, then something is fishy.  Try to look for other tell-tale signs.  Fidgeting, drumming the fingers, pacing to and fro or just simply getting agitated trying to explain, even without you irritating her or him.

When someone is honest, the voice tend to be calm and crystal clear.  But when your partner is lying, the voice tend to be a bit squeaky, a bit rushed to explain and she/he might tend to do something else while explaining things to you.  Another good form of detection would be excuses.  If your the one says they are tired and wanting to rest without so much caring to explain, something is up as well.

However, these signs are just guesses.  Don’t go on assuming things and maligning your partner, because there might be problems arising if she/he is really honest.  But mostly, when someone lies, one thing that I’ve learned over the years through past relationships would be that they will definitely be very uncomfortable in asking questions and explaining things.  That is something like a non-enjoyable time for them.  Don’t keep asking suspicious questions when you suspect that your the one is lying to you.  Instead, compose your questions and ask them rationally and gently.  Ask some non-suspicious questions to show that you are just asking how their day went or something like that.  Don’t be too forward, this is not good.  And even after you detect a lie, don’t go on pouncing on your partner as well.  Instead, keep those lies inside your head, or the lie, and note for future references should the same thing happen again, then you can definitely feel that something is really up and whether she/he is lying through their teeth.

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One more good thing is basic instinct.  We are given this form of common sense which tells us that something is smelling fishy.  It is also something comparable to an animal instinct.  Make sure that you never ever try to frame your partner for something that she/he never commits.  That is crucial in any relationship and if you really have a bad feeling that your partner is lying, try to gather all the facts and ask them all when the time is right.  In that way, your partner might not have time to compose themselves and if they are lying, the stutter err, the awkward silent moments and lame excuses will definitely be shown.  Make sure that when you suspect that your partner is lying or in some cases, giving repeated lies, to not lose your temper and shout at them or commit to anything heinous.  Remaining calm, cool and collected is a more mature way to handle things and once you do that and take things in a rational way, you might be surprised that your partner can even go to the extent of confessing their lies.