How to Make a Relationship Work

Love is a wonderful gift that God had given us. It gives us joy, happiness and laughter, but sometimes for others love leads to sadness, sorrow, pain and hatred. I would like to correct that wrong perception about love, because for me, love only gives positive feelings like joy and happiness. It does not hurt a person, but it makes a person stronger. True love never leads to sadness and pain cause if you really love someone you’ll be happy for her/him with or without you in his/her life. Love is simply feeling good and being happy towards other person’s happiness.

Today, we often see relationships that last only a few months or years. Some even last only for days. I would like to share to you my guide for a successful relationship. This is from my personal experience in life and I hope that this guide can help you. You may or may not believe/follow this, but it works pretty well with me.

TIPS for a successful relationship!

1. Faith in God

   When I was in my elementary years my brother always had this saying for a girl, “I do believe from God above, created you for me to love. He picks you up among the rest, because for Him you are the best.” Now I know that it’s true because He really is the reason for everything so don’t forget Him. He’s the one who chooses the person whom we are going to share our lives with. He guides us to our journey in life and picks up the best partner that will serve as our other half for our lives to be more meaningful.

2. Trust

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   Trust is very important to a relationship. It makes one another secured and confident towards their relationship. From what I experience in my past relationships, without trust, there will always be doubt that most of the time leads to quarrel or fights.

   I don’t do this but most men do – When the girl starts to have this doubt because of distrust to her partner, Girls never stop asking questions that irritates boys like… “Sino kasama mo?”, “Who’s texting you?” “Where were you last night?” so men sometimes lie about these things just to make his girl shut up. Bottom line is.. the start of men being dishonest.

3. Honesty

   As what they say, “The truth will set you free”. Hehehe… As much as possible I don’t lie to my partner. Even if by saying the truth will only hurt her. If you’re wondering why, the answer is very simple. It would hurt her more if she finds it out (that you’ve done something wrong) from other people and not from you. Remember, you can’t keep a secret forever. Time will always come for your secret to unfold. Just be honest to her, sooner or later she’ll forgive you knowing that you’ve been honest to her, you have regrets and your asking for forgiveness.

4. Communication

   Good communication is very important and essential to a successful relationship. This is associated with honesty. It enables both partners to talk openly about a situation or problem and express themselves freely. It also enables us to learn how to share things to our partner. Saying ones feeling, emotions, needs and wants will enable your partner to think for immediate solution or ways to resolve any problems. I always say this to my partner “If you have a problem, tell me. Let’s talk about it and try to fix things up”. When I’m the one who has a problem I’m always open to her and I also seek her advice.

   Another important thing, when your partner tells you something about his/her problem, listen to him/her. Remember “a good speaker is a good listener”. In that way you’ll be able to understand him/her more and come up to a more effective solution. 

5. Time

   Always make time for each other. No matter how busy your schedule is, be sure to have time for your partner. If possible, make her/him feel special everyday. There are times that we have regrets to things that we could have done for him/her when we still got a chance.