How to Make New Friends
by Even if you already have friends you cannot have too many, and it may be a good idea to have some fresh blood added to the collection. Maybe the friends you already have are married and often busy with their partner and family and too busy to see you most of the time, or they have hobbies that take up a lot of their time, or maybe you are just bored with the friends you already have but do not want to get rid of them and think it is better to find some more instead.
You need to ask yourself why you are seeking new friends first, because if it is to share a hobby with you then you need to find the right type of people who share that hobby. If you are very keen on fishing or computers and you go to a local bar or normal club and chat to people you might have to chat to 500 people before you find one who shares the same hobby as you. When it is to share a hobby you need to go to message boards and chat rooms and clubs that are specifically for that, so that you do not meet up with a lot of unsuitables first.
If you want friends who are the same age as you join clubs and groups for your age. If you want friends who are also single likewise. Always go to the source of what you are seeking.
If you just want a variety of friends of all different types and want to get together with people who have spare time then normal clubs where you get all different types are fine.
There are online groups you can join to find friends as well as for dating, and you might want to stick to people who share your beliefs such as other people who are also christians or quakers.
But always ask yourself how much time you have to spare for your friends. If you are already very busy and only have a few hours per week to spare then it might be pointless to bother. For one thing the new friends may well be busy too and not available when it suits you, for another thing you might find it better to stick to the tried and tested friends you already have rather than lose interest in them for this new friend that may not work out at all. It would be a bit silly to dump an existing friend for a new one and then find you have neither.
I would suggest that if you are in a situation where you are finding out about new friends but already have some then it would be wisest to tell the existing friends you are going on holiday, busy at work nor not well rather than tell them the truth. That way if the new friendships do not work out you can go back to the tried and tested friends without them thinking anything bad of you and without it harming the relationship you had. If you tell them the truth and say you are meeting new people and it does not work out and then you want to see them they may well not be interested or at least be a bit funny about it.
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