How to Make the First Move

A good first touch will be subtle and subdued. Being overly aggressive can be a turn-off. (though sometimes a turn-on. The more attractive you and the apple of your eye are, the more aggressive the first touches can be. Be confident but respectful.) You need to be within arms length of the chosen target. Elbow’s length is preferred.

Animate your hands while talking. When you make a point or finish speaking, let your hand rest on theirs for a brief moment. This will get a reaction. Read it positive or negative.

Another initial touch can be made by sitting close enough to touch. Body language names this move positive or negative. If they lean in, it’s good – away, not so good – nothing, try the hand thing.

First kisses work best when the consenting parties are alone, but this isn’t required. A public first kiss can have some tense after-effects, and should be used before a departure if at all. There is a school of teaching that will let you make the first kiss with nothing more than an approach, but this takes cajones (metaphorically speaking, of course) and some serious experience in reading body language.

Getting your partner alone is up to you, but telling them to follow you usually works fine. Take them somewhere less occupied by persons.

They eyes are said to be the window to the soul. Eyes turned down indicate submission or coyness – great indications of attracting. Away often indicates a disinterest. Up is reserved for thinking or looking at stars.

You’ll want to have good eye contact and be close enough to lean or stretch for a kiss. A person thinking about kissing you (even if they’re toying with the idea in their head) will glance at your lips often times without them realizing it.

If you’re nervous, you can wait for the second glance, but twice is most usually a go. Don’t worry about the conversation. You’ll forget it after the kiss anyway.

The first kiss should be dry. If your partner wants a more passionate kiss, they may grab you or press hard against you or open their mouth. Be sweet and brief. Smile and go for a second if it feels right.

Happy kissing!