Nobody really wants to live miles and miles away from their loved ones under any circumstances. Long-distance relationships can cause a number of obstacles and heartache. If done correctly, however, you can even benefit from them.
In this day and age, long-distance relationships are happening more and more frequently. The trigger for these love stories is often the internet. People in the 21st century have their eyes everywhere in the world and are not afraid to link themselves with others on an international scale. Social networking is the perfect platform for that. It usually doesn’t take very long until feelings or personal stories are shared, which is a big step towards establishing that aforementioned link.
Long-distance relationships bring a number of problems or even dangers with them. Once you have feelings for the other or even fall in love with them, things can get complicated. Here are a number of questions and challenges people may face:
- Is the other just pretending to care?
When meeting someone online, there is always the chance of running into frauds that aren’t shy about having a laugh at somebody else’s expense. One indicator of honesty is usually patience. Liars on the internet usually don’t spend a long time playing with their “victims” because they simply want a quick laugh. Besides this, look closely at what the other person is telling you and how believable you think it is.
The good old question of trust and faithfulness plays a big role in long-distance relationships as well. It’s hard to judge whether a distant partner is faithful or not. Pay close attention to the other’s behavior in case there is any doubt. Is he/she avoiding romantic talk? Does he/she prefer typing to speaking on the phone or webcam for no apparent reason? These could be indicators of unfaithfulness.
It is not always easy to stay happy in this kind of a relationship. Everybody has physical needs and if these are not met, frustration and unhappiness may occur on a constant basis. This is a true test of how strong the relationship really is. If a problem like this can be overcome, things look really good. Try to be creative in order to distract from physical needs by sending gifts like stuffed animals smelling of your favourite perfume or clothing you love to wear. You’ll feel closer that way.
Thankfully, in the online age we don’t have to worry too much about how expensive phone calls are. We can simply leave messages, type for hours, or even see each other via webcam. What is expensive, however, is travelling. Cars, trains, or planes can be really expensive, especially for young long-distance lovers. Usually there are ways to cut a lot of costs. Make sure you explore all opportunities when it comes to transport.
But it isn’t all negative. Long-distance relationship can be the ultimate test for true lovers and provide a very strong base for a successful relationship. It is important to take the mentioned factors into consideration and, maybe most importantly, be patient and trust each other.