It’s over. Someone broke your fragile heart into tiny million pieces. So what do you do now?
Some people would lock their selves up in their room and cry their eyes out until they ran out of tears, and I think this is helpful since you need to let your feelings out, then there are some who would rather go out with friends and try to have fun as much as they can to be able to forget the pain temporarily. But as soon as they get home, they turn off the lights, they feel alone and the hurt’s still there. Then they’ll realize that the hurt is still there.

We have to realize that there are no shortcuts in mending a broken heart. It’s really hard to forget, but the best we can do is accept things as it is. If you know in your heart that you have done everything to save the relationship or to make things work but it was futile, then there’s nothing more you can do but move on with your life.

There are billions of people in this world. You have to realize that you are not the only one who is experiencing that. Yes, it does hurt so much right now but it will not stay that way forever unless you let it. As they all say, time heals all wounds.

So how do you really mend your aching heart?

First, you have to admit that there are people who cannot be together no matter how much they want to be. Holding on to something that you know that it no longer exists would hurt you more. While memories are there to keep, there is no point in remembering what you and your now ex-boyfriend used to do. This would not be helpful to you and you’re just going to hurt yourself more.

Do not take this in a negative way. Things are not as bad as it seem. Now is the right time to take that painting class that you have been planning to do so for the longest time. It would also be great to spend time with those people that you ignored when you were still with your ex. Also, now would be the best time to meet new friends that share the same passion or experience that you have.

Third, no matter how much pain your ex caused you, you have to keep in mind that he will always be a part of your life and you in his life. Seeing the things that your ex gave you or your picture together framed in your room, I advise that you collect everything, put them in a box and shove it somewhere that you will not be able to see easily or you may also want to bury those things.

Lastly, since the wound is still fresh, you don’t want to date immediately. Enjoy being single for the mean time. Jumping into another relationship would not help. You will just be comparing the person to your ex and that would be unfair to your new partner.

Once you know that you are over your ex, go ahead and try to date again. Who knows, this time around you may bump into the person that was really meant for you!