How to Prevent My Ex From Getting Hurt

Choose your partner carefully. This is especially true for those persons who are not currently in a relationship and are somewhat hesitant, because of fear of repercussions, and the memory of how their previous relationship had ended. Be careful not to rush into a relationship. Try to develop solid foundations regarding friendship first and foremost, in this way you are able to develop trust with the prospective partner, or if there is an intention to start a relationship.  When you are able to establish the trust, it will be easier to combat feelings of hurt and emotional abuse, if there is any.

Reflections are always good, and there is no exception when it comes to a previous relationship. Try to figure out where you went wrong with your past relationships. Look, we all make mistakes. You do not need to go back to everything the next person had ever done wrong in the relationship. The change has to begin with you, think about your past mistakes, and try to place yourself in your partner’s shoes. Maybe they thought you were being too clingy, or misunderstanding them, or their feelings. Learn from your mistakes, and try to correct them, and grow from them. You can also create a benchmark to avoid future mistakes, and to judge when something is about to go into the old pattern. Also try to use this, to avoid mistakes you or your ex would have made, and also to avoid following the same patterns again. Many times you end up being emotionally abused by your partner when you miss or ignore the warning signs.

Practice effective communication with your partner. This goes a long way in preventing hurt feelings, effective communication also establishes trust. If you find yourself in a situation in which your partner is not a communicator, then it is best you get out of the relationship, or avoid taking the relationship to the next level for awhile. Lack of communication, harbors feelings of hurt or inadequacy, and destructive assumptions. It leads to relationships marred by hurt feelings.

Respect your partner, not only do you demand respect from him/her, you also give them respect. You have to first give respect to get respect.  Many people claim to do this, but really, do they? Building a relationship takes a lot of effort, and also commitment. Giving them respect means respecting their privacy and trying not to accuse them, this brings out the worst in them. It’s also a lot about trusting them trying not to get jealous whenever they speak to someone of the opposite sex.  Whenever you emit negative energy, you stand the chance of them being unresponsive and uncaring. People are usually sensitive, so you have to tread lightly when it comes to their emotions. If you don’t show them respect and love, then they won’t respond to your feelings in return. Try to place yourself in your partner’s shoe, and in so doing, you will realize just what they are going through.