Is that phrase really true?  The Bible gives sound advice on how married couples are to treat each other. In order to make your marriage work; you as a spouse must realize your role and make sure you play it right.  Marriage is a bond that was meant to be forever.

Choose the heading that applies to you and try to abide by what comes underneath:

• “Husbands, continue loving your wives…. in this way husbands ought to be loving their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself, for no man ever hated his own flesh; but feeds and cherishes it, as the Christ also does the congregation” Ephesians 5:23, 25-29. 
• “Keep on loving you wives and do not be bitterly angry with them.” Colossians 3:19.

• “The head of the Christ is God,” just as the head of the woman is the man.” 1 Corinthians 11:3.
• Do not belittle your husband or try to take over his headship.
• “The wife should have deep respect for her husband.” Ephesians 5:33.

A Six days challenge for both Husband and Wife

Day 1: Try not to say anything negative to your spouse for one day. This might be hard but if temptation arises, just keep quite.

Day 2: Show thoughtful actions. Do one unexpected gesture as an act of kindness. Do it even though you don’t expect anything in return.

Day 3: Invest something small. When you have something that is dear to you, you invest time and effort in it. Buy your spouse something nice to show that he/she means something to you.

Day 4: Do something different. When your partner is at work or not around, call  him/her to find out how he/she is doing.

Day 5: listen to your spouse. When he/she sees that you are listing to him/her for a change, that will give the relationship a little light. Don’t just look as if you are listening. Show that you understand and really care about the matter. Also do things around the house that you never used to do before.

Day 6: Start studying your partner again. When you were courting, you tried to find out every detail to know what he/she liked or disliked. That was actually studying your partner. When you  finished studying and gained the approval of marriage, that knowledge was equal to a high school certificate. Similarly, to be successful in any business venture, you have to continue until you get your Bachelors Degree, then your Masters up to your Doctorate.  Since marriage is a life long commitment, the mistake  you made was to stop studying. You should have never  stopped studying your spouse. Your new job is to  pick up the pieces and go back to college where you left off. Your only subject should be your wife/husband.

You have both trampled on each other with your words and actions. If you have anything left in you that wants to save your marriage; it is now time to ask for forgiveness. Most importantly, while waiting, give each other some time to think while doing all the kind acts of love, including helping with house chores, making dinner and saying “I Love You.”