How to Succeed at Speed Dating

Four minutes usually goes so fast and they will mark if they want to see you again on their card. At the end of the night the women that want to separate the chaff from the wheat will stay to dissect you further. This is where most men fail. The longer they have to do this means that you will be crossed off their list if they are unsure about you. There needs to be an air of mystery about you. I find that the women have already made their mind up about you in the first place so you have the opportunity to put your foot in it by staying and trying to convince them otherwise.

Go on to a pub but make your excuses to leave. You have to meet someone in town and then go. The next day, you can fill in who you like but don’t be disheartened if they all reject you. This happens but after a while you might get one date and this builds up the confidence. Just make sure that you learn from your mistakes and apply them for next time. You usually meet up with the same crowd the next time so all least you know something about them the next time around. I find that foreign women are great at taking it seriously so you stand a much better chance. Sometimes if a woman is there with her friends and they have been drinking then they will see it as a joke so dismiss them straight away, don’t waste your time trying to have a sensible conversation with them. They don’t respect you giving up your time to talk to them so don’t bother, just be civil to them and forget them as you move onto the next table.

Men will try their luck with almost every woman on the cards but women are more discerning. They will only mark one or two, I have known women to go there and not even mark one as a potential date.  I meet some of the guys before and after the event and they are good looking and successful yet they are rejected by them and it is just one of those things that is mind blowing. There is no logic to it and you cannot try to figure out why a certain girl rejected you. Just put it down as one of those girls that is not the one and move on. You can only look after your own feelings so don’t be all wussy and just shrug it off as one of those things.

To be a success at speed dating, you need to have a confident air about you, a thick skin, be a bit of a laugh, good storyteller and a couldn’t care less attitude. If you don’t possess these then work at them and this is a good way to start.