How to Survive a Break Up

So what you do when  the pain feels unbearable; How do you resist the revenge temptation; What prevents you from calling him/her just to hear his/her voice; How can your heart explain to your brain that you should stop hoping;

1. Let yourself mourn the loss. People tend to think that they should suppress their pain, their frustration, their anger, otherwise they will collapse. Wrong. The truth is that you will actually collapse if you don’t let yourself feel  and express all these negative emotions. Putting on a brave face and pretending everything is okay will make sure you will carry those negative emotions with you for a long time. And eventually you will collapse.  Listen to love songs, cry, scream, break a vase (preferably a vase you never liked much).  Get is all out of your chest. You will see  that you will feel relieved afterwards.
2. Stay away from temptation. You will often feel tempted to call or see him/her (especially in the first days after the break up), so make sure you have left no trace behind. Delete his/her telephone number from your cell phone. Throw away all the stuff that reminds you of him/her (or at least hide them someplace safe and give someone the key). You  absolutely need to keep some safe distance at this point.
3. Keep yourself busy with something you like: I cannot emphasise this enough. This is a period where you need to nurture yourself more than ever before. You are already going through something bad, if you try to distract yourself with something you  don’t like, you will only make a bad situation worse.  You need to feel better and you can only accomplish that by doing something you really enjoy. So, buy a book that sounds interesting. Go to that fancy restaurant you always wanted but had no time. Arrange a  short trip someplace nice with friends.  Go the gym. Start dancing classes. Redecorate your room. Make a list of all the things you always wanted to do,(not the things you always had to do) and start doing them one by one.
4. Don’t be too hard on yourself. There will be moments when you will feel as if you are relapsing. You will hear a song which will remind of you of him/her.  You will hear people talking about him/her and you will be tempted to ask how is he/she doing. That’s human. You can’t expect yourself to suddenly change your feelings. It will happen at its own time. What you can do when you have these urges, is to calmly but promptly switch to something else, in a few words, don’t let them last for long.
5. Watch  sitcoms. Watching stories written  in a lighthearted spirit will help you remain optimistic.

You will make it…it is only a matter of time.