How to Survive the First Five Years of Marriage

Well lets see for the first six months your going to have share space not any space “your everything space.“ From the great spot on the couch to the where your tooth paste should be according to you. Changes are not only a necessity but a great challenge to many. Some of us have to have the dishware emptied before bed, why other spouses feel that making sure the contact solution top is placed on the bottom takes greater priority

Marriage is exciting, I like comparing marriage to a child’s roller coaster–not to rough but has a nice whip to it. In the past I believed that marriage is the present evolution of two individuals turning into one sacred divine being/soul. This is definitely a great philosophy to live by, yet I question how honest that statement really is. The first thing we must realize is that we can not change the person we are married to into someone they are not, as we have zero intentions on changing our person. However, we can make adjustments and partially diversify ourselves. This is done in order to evolve into a well rounded individual that allow significant growth between you and your partner. There is nothing sadder in life than attending a wedding three years ago and today you find out the marriage is over because the couple has grown apart. There is no true reason why a couple should grown apart.

I am a firm believer in “Communication” at all times, also the wonderful “Boom-a-Rang” theory. What is the Boom-a-Rang theory? It’s very simple yet complex at the same time requiring Communication. The act of a Boom-a-Rang is that once it is thrown at someone it basically comes back to it’s original location. In marriage this works in the same way. You get into a heated argument with your significant other, things are said feelings are hurt. Instead of addressing what is bother/upsetting or hurt your feelings you simply bottle it in. Unfortunately, what happens is that months latter in another conversation or discussion you bring this up and in return this causes an even greater heated argument.

The good thing with this situation is that you are communicating. In spite of this form of communication, the bad aspect of it is the timeline to discuss the originally issue that upset you. If you take a boom-a-rang and through at someone it spins and comes back to you the same day not a couple of months latter. Now with this knowledge lets apply it to the real world including communication. If there is something that was said or done by your significant other that upset you, well you now have two weeks to bring in to their attention. If you do not then bring up a couple of months latter, please don’t expect them to understand or even know what you are talking about.