How to Survive the First Five Years of Marriage

Take this example; I can’t stand coming home to a dirty sink–in our house the agreement is I cook and my significant other cleans the kitchen. I come home today an the kitchen is a disaster—I clean up and cook dinner. Keep in mind this act of not cleaning the kitchen because their show was on has my blood boiling. Instead of addressing the issue I burry it, a month goes by and once again I find myself in the same situation. Rather than talk this through I burst, simply giving them a piece of my mind–during this heated argument I bring up the dishes incident that happened a couple of months ago. I get even more gravitated because they have no clue what I’m talking about. How can he/she I never said anything a month ago and now instead of feeling empowered I find myself feeling used and abused.

Now lets rewind had I expressed/mentioned this issue either that same night or that week we would not be yelling and insulting at the top of our lungs. When an issue is fresh on your mind and is recent with two weeks your partner will remember, but if and when you wait longer time there is no guarantees. In a marriage no one is perfect and not one person can be expected to know what the other is thinking or planning.

Try this “boom-a-rang” theory at home…if your significant other upsets you in some way or fashion you have two weeks to bring it to their attention. If your time surpass the two mark you have lost your chance to discuss it and simply are going to have to deal with the issue with out bringing it up.

Communication is the key to a successful marriage!