Husband and Wife

When you got engaged to your wife (at the time your girlfriend), did you think it was magnificent, after waiting for so long you finally found your true love. At the time you said ‘I will always be your love forever, nothing will change the love that I have for you.’ You exchange your rings and you say I do however two years later you get this Scenario:

“I want a divorce from you; you don’t make me happy any more”

The wife gets up off the front room seat and storms out into the kitchen,

“You want a divorce; I don’t even know why I married you in the first place, you do nothing but nag, nag, and nag.”

The husband gets up also in a rage and follows his wife in to the kitchen; you both continue arguing for hours maybe even throwing kitchen utensils, pictures and so forth. After that you both walk out on each other, the husband slams his way out of the front door and gets into the car. The wife goes to her room and also slams the bedroom door and cry’s her heart out, they both wonder where their marriage is going.

Does that sound like you?

How do you both get on and make that marriage work?

And what do you both have to do to continue being happy?

Hints:

The reason why it says hints and not solutions like a lot of so called marriage counsellors and magazines is that we are all imperfect and no matter what you do, we all fall short sometimes, and even if you do apply all the hints here, you will be silly to think that you will have a perfect marriage. However don’t be discouraged by this because it does help and sometimes people have even got remarried to each other, and remember don’t give up.   

1,   Be Realistic,

Be real about your relationship, don’t expect too much of each other when you know you can’t provide it or give it. Love is not like in the movies, you have to work at it.

2,   Discuss Differences,

This is a hard one because when you’re hurt you don’t want to talk, however talking actually helps. Never go to bed without settling it, 90 percent of the time it will still make you argue the next day if you don’t.

3,    Headship,

In the bible it talks about head ship, not in the way where the man has to be dogmatic about being head or leader of his wife. But in the way where you both respect each other and love each other to the point where you would do anything for the one you love which includes doing jobs that you don’t like.

Conclusion

In fact the only quality you need in a marriage is love, which will make you go far and over come all sorts of disagreements, these hints are only there to guide you to be and maintain marriage. Marriage is hard work, it means that you have to put effort in your marriage, not laze around. A marriage is a source of joy and of tribulation, disagreements should be handled immediately, when you have a discussion you should listen carefully so you know how to answer. It requires you to be both unselfish and deal with each other with love.