I Followed All The Advice, Why is My Marriage Still Falling Apart

 I understand that when you have to look for help on how to keep your marriage alive, you feel a little helpless at this point. But what really drives you crazy is when you follow all the tips and rules any marriage counselor would give you, and it’s still not working. Well, here are some tips on these sort of situations.

1. Analyze the other spouse’s point of view.We as human being hear what we want to hear, rather than what was really said. It’s in our nature, so don’t be ashamed of it. But when we find ourselves getting desperate to keep our love around, we need to put all that aside. He/she has something to say. Most of the time, it’s something that we failed to hear the first couple of times. When this happens, try to talk about it and really keep your ears open. Ladies, don’t look into every last detail a man is saying. Usually when a man is telling you something, he means this in the most literal sense of the thing. And men, don’t get aggravated so easily when trying to talk to her, we as women can’t help our mood swings, and if you really want to make it work, you’ll see this as an opportunity to learn how to brush off our mood swings and get to the point.
2. When listening and talking doesn’t work, take a break. A small separation is not always a bad thing. It could be used as a chance to get your heads straight and then come back into it with a new outlook on your marriage. But be cautious of separations, taking too long to come home may tell the other person that you’re moving on and just trying to be nice about it.
3. Learn from your mistakes. Now is not the time to be stubborn and not admit when you’re wrong. This sort of thing causes an even worse fight. Instead of being right (even if you are,) leave it alone. Brushing it off can be good, but the best thing to do is try to compromise on the situation. Compromise is always key. When everything is said and done, learning from your mistakes is the best thing you could do for your spouse.
4. Let it go. I understand that it hurts. And I know how hard it could be. But when nothing else is working, you have to let them go. You can’t push love on someone. If  their heart has gone astray, it will only come back when it wants to. But when I look around and I see all these spouses milking the other for all they’ve got because it didn’t end all too well, I just shake my head. As cruel as that sounds, we are all grown-ups. Hurting them is only going to make things harder. And the process of moving on can get strained. When love isn’t enough, it’s time to let it go.

That is all that I have for you for now. Remember, this is not a professionals advice. So if you feel that a second opinion is needed, please seek it. There is no reason to take just one person’s advice on these sort of things. Like my husband says to me all the time, “Take all he advice you can from anyone who’ll give it to you. Make it your own, then run with it.” Thank you so much for reading. I hope you enjoyed it.