If She is a Slut, So are You!

Katherine Heigl’s Abby calls Gerard Butler’s Mike a man whore in The Ugly Turth. Well, he has a dirty mind, a dirty “tongue” and he does sleep around a lot. I think the word man whore is harsh, so I am calling that kind of men- men who sleep around too much, have one night stands all the time and have sex on first date a lot- sluts. Obviously, the girls who do these are regarded as sluts in many countries, no matter how liberated or open-minded they claim to be)maybe with the exception of Scandinavia…) So, if women are going to be called sluts, so should men be.

How did this come up? I was sitting in a bar with friends and chatting with our Scottish mate. He kept entertaining us with all the dirty stories he had (you know, stories that could look at home on Sex and The City or Entourage episodes). It was all really fun and entertaining until I realized he was trying to make himself sound like the victim- like the girls forced themselves on him, that any embarrassing result was due to the girl and all that…

Now, it added to the comedy aspect so I let it go. Then he said something like he could never really date a girl who he slept with the night he met her. OK- it may not the best idea to start something meaningful with a person you just went to bed with, without actually having connected but then it goes both ways. And the reason behind his thought was not this. How can he possibly date a girl who just slept with him right away?

Whoa, what? What kind of a double standard is that? I am not neither for nor against one night stands but if a guy is considering a girl “not relationship material” because of this, there is something very twisted in his logic. Maybe it is a slutty thing to do. Or maybe it is just how the 21st century works. It is a personal decision. But I know one thing for sure. If she is a slut, so is he. And I kept laughing at his face all night, saying he was sooo slutty and not a relationship material at all. Now, it was my turn to entertain the audience. This did get him thinking…

Now, I am not taking a moral point of view here, folks. I am just all for equity. What is the point of all this? Well: imagine how awkward it would be, if a guy met the girl of his dreams and he had sex with her right away. Perfect scenario, right? She is hot, fun and impulsive. But then he realizes she is not returning his calls. And who could blame her? How is she going to know he doesn’t do it with every girl he meets? How is she going to take him seriously?

Every coin has two sides, boys. Just so you remember it…