Independent Women: Are They Overrated
by The pride and assurance bordering on arrogance when you hear a woman utter “I am an independent woman is music to the ears of some men but others squirm or cringe in her presence". Independent women can be anyone from the store clerk to the fortune five hundred executive.
Independent women: is this terminology overrated?
The pride and assurance bordering on arrogance when you hear a woman utter “I am an independent woman” is music to the ears of some men but others squirm or cringe in her presence. Independent women can be anyone from the store clerk to the fortune five hundred executive. For most, an independent woman is as Neyo puts it in his song (“She has her own. She doesn’t need mine, there is nothing that is more sexy, than a woman that wants but does not need me”). Independent women are basically women who have their own and paved their lives exclusive of the influence of a male or others. According to Neyo (“she don’t look at me like captain save them…she looks at me (her man) like inspiration… she wanna be complimenting my swag”). Even though I love Neyo, I believe that an independent woman is far more profound than the economical concept of being financially equal to the men in her life.
What is an independent woman?
I would define an independent woman as a female who does not conform exclusively to the archaic notions of femininity. This means that an independent woman’s social role is not confined to the domestic sphere but extends outside of being a wife and a child bearer. This woman lives by her own rules and is financially secure and economically independent. She asserts that her brain and morale are sufficient to grant social and financially ascendancy without resorting to the utilization of sensuous or primal tactics. She does not pander to the desires of men and see her male counterpart as an equal and not superior or a rival. There is not a need for her gratify, worship or compete with her partner.
Independent women have high levels of emotional intelligence which designates that even though she does not subscribe to the former notions of femininity, she understands the sensibilities of men and will from time to time remove her armor of gladiator to pander to his masculine ego. Pandering to your partners ego does not mean that you will have to do demeaning and devoluting activities. It simply states that you understand that you will have to compromise your individual needs for the relationship.
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Post Commentlillyrose
On January 15, 2010 at 6:03 am
Well presented article. I am not an independent woman but a mother and a wife, however if my husband were to leave I would be able to cope and be independent, without being a high flyer.
qasimdharamsy
On January 15, 2010 at 1:50 pm
i am in favour of womens independency
laya
On May 8, 2010 at 7:58 pm
Um, excuse me, OVERRATED? You’re overrated bud. If you have a problem with independent woman, jackass, say it to their face!!!! We will promptly KICK YOU IN THE BALLS!!!
Intependent
On June 14, 2010 at 7:02 pm
Men who do like independent women are the type who are very insecure with themselves and did not achive their set goals (if they have any goals to begin with). They use their masculinity as a way to control women. Independent women are harder to control as they do not depend on males for their survival. Men like to be in control more than women, therefore men who do not like independent women are generally control freaks. Control issues usually arise from man being inscure with himself. I learned very well how to recognize this type, so I kick them to the curb before any serious relationship could possibly start. I do not ahve a control freak or servant in my life. I want to have a companion, a partner with whom I can share equally. If I never find this type of man, then I remain single. And this possibility does not scare me at all. I have way too many interests, hobbies and friends to feel “lonely”.
Independent
On June 14, 2010 at 7:04 pm
I meant to say “men who do NOT like independent women…”
Jimster
On October 3, 2010 at 3:15 am
Laya, this isn’t hollywood where you can easily kick someones balls honey…it does not quite work that way in real life…
Simon
On October 14, 2011 at 2:28 am
Yes independent women are overrated and Layla, I have said it to many self proclaim independent women in the face and if they tried kick me because of it they don’t know what would hit them.
The problem with women is they don’t think of themselves as individual. I mean if you are independent do you have to tell everyone you are and if you are a woman do we need to be reminded? Of course unless you consider yourself weak, dependent and disadvantaged complex. Or look at it this way do you call yourself a “clever woman” because it is so unique and that most women are thick?