Internet Dating and Posting a Photograph

Okay so you have just joined an Internet Dating Site or perhaps you are considering it or like many these days you are an “established” member!

Well what is curious is the amount of people that post profiles without a picture. There is an argument that people wish to remain private or figure that a person should be interested in the person, not the way they look. After all, the old saying that “looks fade” does ring true. Age is something we cannot cheat and eve if we manage it through various products and treatments, it will catch us up…

So that is one reason. But there are others. One could be they are too embarrassed or afraid to post a picture. Maybe they have low self-esteem about their image? Then there are some who just blatantly wish not to post a picture because they either haven’t one or they don’t know how to upload one…

On the flip side there are many thousands of Internet daters who post pictures that are not a true reflection of how they are now. This is a common complaint voiced by many women who tell tales of meeting men and recoiled in horror or disappointment that then man that turned up was looking ten years older than his photograph.

So why do people put up pictures that are years old? Is it a self-esteem issue again? It is obvious that if you are serious about meeting someone then by posting a picture that isn’t a true reflection of how you look today will be discovered. And will that ruin your chances?

Many men argue it shouldn’t. They go on that a woman should like them for the person they are and not by just how they look. Yes, men think that way and in a weird way it can make sense. But up to ten years old?

Let us not forget, and I may be slated here from both guys and especially the girls, that women are emotional. They don’t think the same as the guys. So why do men wonder why the girls are horrified or put off by the fact the guy that shown up on the date wasn’t the same person they assumed they were talking to via the web?

That is easy: Girls will see it as “deceit” or a blatant “lie”. It is a form of cheating and girls hate that crap as much as men do., if not much more. Girls want to meet a guy who comes across as fun and exciting, ambitious and loyal. Loving and friendly and with good morals. They also want a guy who is a man and is strong and speaks his mind to defend what he believes in or loves. But they want a guy who is honest and tells the truth.

Men will say “I am all those things and much more, so why recoil because the picture is a little out of date?” Well I would edge my bets that the reason the girl suddenly is put off is because you “deceived” her at the first hurdle. You weren’t being honest with her by posting up an old picture.

So to the guys and dare I say t the girls also, if you are serious about internet dating and establishing a healthy and long lasting bond with the person of your dreams, then start off on an “honest” footing and post a recent picture up. If you haven’t got one say so and promise to post one soon. In any event you will only increase your chances for long term success…

Of course, unless like quite a few out there on the dating sites, you’re only on the look out for an ego boost.