Is a Father’s Love Linked to His Relationship with His Woman?

In the event of  separation or divorce invloving children, there is usually much sadness and distress.

Most people would agree that divorce is painful, especially where there are children involved.

It is particularly painful when it involves a division such that a father does not see his children for long periods of time. Sometimes for the rest of his life. In most cases of divorce, custody of minor childrem is awarded to the mother

Often, years later, the adult child of a divorce may wonder if  their father loved themif he went completely out of their lives since the time of the divorce.

It is known that men are not as emotional as women. A man can successfully compartmentalise his emotions such that to the outside world, he may appear not to have any.

A woman is usually unable to do this.

In addition, a woman is programmed to be a nurturer. She bonds automatically with her children. They are a part of her own body for nine months. Her brain is infused with surges of oxytocin, known as ‘the cudlle hormone’ during pregnancy.

Does a man bond vicariously through his partner? What happens when parents separate? Is a man able to relate to his children in the same way when his usual ally when relating to them is in conflict with him?

Is it possible that when a man pairs up with another woman post-divorce, his relationship with his children from the previous marriage is heavily dependent on the relationship with this new woman?

What could be the explanation of men who remarry cutting off all contact with his children and in fact effectively disinheriting them when his new wife is not agreeable ala Anna Nichole Smith?

Why is it that men who have agood relationship with their ex-wife or the new wife appear to have a better relationship with their children post divorce and why does it appear that lone men are less likely to keep in contact with his children.

Of course there are always several factors which come into play in these types of situations, but is there something in the theory that a man’s ties to his children, lacking the maternal emotional and necessarily physical connection with infants and children is tied to his relationship, or his bond to his partner, who is not necessarily the children’s mother?

If this is the case, then stepmothers have an incredible power and reponsibility in this modern era of the rising divorce rate.