Is He or She Cheating?

Third: Is he/she coming home late?

Long day at work? Well if this is so, try finding out if there are any new workers at the workplace. Are they attractive? Is he/she spending time with the new worker? Dont go crazy on him/her from this one though because they might actually have to stay after work and get assignments completed. Another thing is to gather intel, ask questions, questions, and more questions!! Dont be to obvious about it though, do it here and there. Always try to ask twice at different times, this way it will be more difficult for him/her to remember a story that they might have made up.

Fourth: A Good Cheater

A Good Cheater is going to do everything in his/her power to make you not even suspect anything. One thing though is the internet, it can do great damage to a relationship but it can also be used to your advantage. Try to track when he/she goes online, how long they go online, what sites they are visiting, and the frequency of the usage. There are many sites online that will allow for a married man/woman to find someone to have an affair with because they are not happy with their marriage.

A good cheater will go to these sites, visit them and do everything that they need too, and then after they are finished, they will erase their entire history. So when you are on your computer and you know that they were just on looking at different sites, but there is not a history of them being on, thats when you should keep your eyes peeled! Think about it, why would they need to erase the history? They are most likely doing something that they shouldnt be or they are purchasing a gift for you.

If you suspect that your partner is cheating using the internet, there are some software tracking programs that you can use to track what sites they are going too.

Fifth: Uninterested in Sexual Activities

Do you and your partner normally have a active sexual relationship, but lately he/she is totally uninterested? They might say, ” I’m just to tired”. Are they forgetting anniversaries? Are they forgetting meaningful family times? Well if this is the case, start investigating!!

Sixth: Money, Money, Money

Generally when a couple first start to date, the male will generally tend to spend large amounts of money on the other. If you notice your bank accounts to start getting low, and the statments say at all these weird places and stores you never even went too, definitely start investigating! It could be fraud or an unfaithful partner. Call your bank, get times and request all the information that you possibly can, gather intel again from your partner, dont be to obvious though. If you are starting to go into debt, that is a good way to get a clue that your partner is cheating. After all, dating is expensive!

Seventh: Body Language

A key to remember in a liar is their body language. Someone who lies may look up towards the ceiling when they lie, almost like trying to figure up a story really fast (looking up for an answer). When you hug someone who is cheating, it may not feel the same. Cheaters often go through a phase of guilt, where they could act like hermit crabs and try to keep to themselves, or they might even start buying you wonderful things and treating you like a king/queen to almost try to consolidate or make up the actions which they have committed. Keep your eyes open for this suspicious form of behavior.

Finally: What to Look For When You Come Home

There are some things that you can look for when you come home, that might suggest or indicate that someone else was possibly in the house while you were gone.

The shower was just used when he/she usually takes showers at night (he/she might do this to remove perfume or cologne, sexual scents)

The comforter is not made how you left it, or it looks like two bodies were recently in the bed.

When you come home the toilet seat is up, but before you left it was down.

Check different trash locations, (for condoms), normally a cheater will not put a condom in a normal trash area where you would be able to find it.

Does the house look like someone was rushing to get out, before you came through the door? What is your partners body language like at this time? Is he/she nervous? Are they sweating? Why? Retrieve Intel!

Remember even if you do suspect any of these circumstances by no means does that mean that your partner is cheating, and for further reference it is recommended you see an appropriate counselor, for those types of issues.