Is Honesty Danger for Your Relationships?

There are some considerations for my friend and us to get out of this unhealthy behaviour:

1. Know our motivations

What is our motivation to withhold information? Is it to keep the peace? It is to please our loved one? Is it to keep the relationship we are currently enjoying? Check if our motivation is right. If not we have to change or stop our motivations.

2. Think about long-term effects

What could be the long-term effects of what we are planning to do or not do? Look at the effects of holding your truth inside you and not expressing it. If you want your marriage to be strong you should be totally honest with one another.

3. To Be Honest are Good to Us.

To be honest is important for us. It is better is our honesty is also good for other people. We don’t have to be confused every time thinking about another lie to cover up our dishonesty. If you want to build or rebuild trust and connection in a relationship, be honest with who you are and what you want. The most important one is what is in your heart, not what you are doing, or what the other think about you. Don’t do something in order somebody like you or admire you. Do something for yourself. Do something because you want to do it. Make yourself a better person. Withholding only give you temporary pleasure.

4. Think About Value of Our Relationship

Make our choice of action dependant on what values we want our relationship to be based on. If we want our relationship to be based on honesty, we have to practice honesty. Withholding builds walls while honesty shared with conviction of the heart gives the space for true love to grow.

5. Don’t Hurt Other with Our Honesty.

Sometime our frankness can hurt other people. We must learn to avoid this thing. You can learn how to tell something honestly but polite. Don’t hurt other people. You will become a pleasant person and the most important thing you become yourself, not a pretender.