Is It Real Love?

Love is something which baffles us all- is it real, is it to quick, are they fake? These are just an example of the many thoughts that go through everyones head when they believe they are in love.

In a recent magazine, a guru stated that if they are falling for you to quick, let out their emotions readily and constantly ring/text/checkup on you then you should be worried. They may just be in a quick smitten stage and therefore may not last the distance and could just be having some fun. This may be some good advice but when people don’t ring, don’t seem to care, people feel dejected, unloved and this makes for rash and unnatural decisions.

Love is therefore about a balance, finding a balance between yourself, a balance between each other, and a balance in day to day life. If you get so caught up with your new love that you reject your friends, neglect your work and kid yourself then it does not matter how well you believe the love is, it is fake. It also means that when you reach the point of end, the fall will be so much harder.

The way we define love is also very different which causes major problems between couples. Some see it as a love of being with someone, sharing their company. Other see love as an intimate thing, the act of making love. Whilst others are unsure of what they really feel love is, whether through a lack of experience, or a bad relationship that has scared and dented their emotions. It is this imbalance that causes some major problems.

Love is something that must be worked on, it will never come fully naturally like it does in the movies, and if it does, be aware of the consequences of following that train down the track. Try and jump off before you get to the station of no-return.

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