Is Marriage at a Young Age a Good Thing?
by Just contemplating why marriage at a young age is good or bad nowadays.
Marriage. What exactly is it anymore? Just a band between husband and wife, husband and husband, or wife and wife? I guess those are questions I definitely can’t answer… but… when are you too young to be married?
My sister’s friend, who isn’t out of high school yet, is getting married the day after her senior prom. To make things even more interesting, she hasn’t even known the guy for a year. So, is getting married at such a young age a good thing? Or is she throwing her life away.
Thinking about this, I begin to think about the marriages in the early 1900s and before. I mean, people got married at the age of 14- well at least my Great- Grandma did. Except, everyone was together forever back then. Why is it so different now? Why is it that when an 18 year old couple get married everyone is totally against it?
I think I know the answer. But of course, everyone has their opinions, don’t they? I think that 18 year olds and everyone under the age of 25 are just not mature enough to get married. Back in the day, people were very mature. My grandparents got married at 18 or 19 and loved each other. When I look at their wedding picture they look like they’re 25ish. Then I look at my brother (who looks EXACTLY like my grandpa. It’s scary I’m not going to lie). My brother is 19 and he looks about five years younger, and most likely acts 10 years younger than my grandfather had. Is it a matter of maturity that makes marriage at a young age so ridiculed by society? Or, is it something different?
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Post CommentSakuragi
On April 20, 2009 at 3:12 am
People nowadays are spoiled, which implies that they mature a lot later in life compared to our grandparents, who ‘grew up’ pretty quick because life was harder back then. =)
nobert soloria bermosa
On April 20, 2009 at 7:28 am
early marriage-no good at all
CHAN LEE PENG
On April 20, 2009 at 9:16 am
I learned much from you. Thank you, my friend.
Louie Jerome
On April 20, 2009 at 9:37 am
Early marriage is, in my opinion, not good. Trouble is that both parties still have to mature emotionally and oft times they grow apart. (I speak from experience here, but I do know that there are exceptions.)
Judy Sheldon
On April 20, 2009 at 6:56 pm
I think it takes a true commitment to marry and young people may not be ready for that. I have heard people who married young question what it would have been like if they had dated around first. Who knows? We can make a mistake at any age, but why not wait until we are sure?
Bing
On April 21, 2009 at 11:37 am
definitely no. young individuals are not ready physically, mentally, morally and financially.
Anne Lyken Garner
On April 22, 2009 at 4:51 am
I think that young couples can still stay together if they’re committed enough to do so. HOwever, these days with all the options and divorce being almost expected as soon as they have a fight, it’s little wonder that people part ways.
Long ago, young, responsible people were expected to work through their differences. Nowadays, people don’t know how. Parents don’t spend that much time with their kids teaching them how to grow up and make wise decisions. Kids are left to their own divices while both parents work hard at getting them ’stuff.’
‘Stuff’ refuses to take on any responsible role, and kids are abandoned once again to do whatever they can and hope for the best. By the time they should be making grown-up decisions, they’re still wondering how to get more pocket money out of their parents.
Of course this is all generalization. There are many exeptions to this, but many families live like this, then expect eighteen year olds to suddenly be grown up. Marriage is about being able to make responsible decisions. If you’re 18 and learned responsiblility, it *can* work. If you’re 25 and never had to be responsbible, there is every indication that your marriage will still fall apart.
BC Doan
On April 22, 2009 at 3:22 pm
Marriage at an early age is not a good idea, at all..I agree with all the comments…18, or 19 still need time to grow, and be responsible first! (Found this on WritersSolution!)
Nicholas Kenney
On April 23, 2009 at 8:14 am
I agree with you Alexa people back in our grandparents day and before had much harder lives and had to mature much faster than today. They also didn’t live as long as we do today. I also agree with Judy and Anne in that it all depends on the individual and whether or not they’ve dealt with responsibility. So far as your friend is concerned with getting married right after the prom to someone she hasn’t even known a year…that’s a mistake and sounds as though they’re in love with the idea of being in love forever and being married. Marriage takes a huge commitment on both parties and it’s also a lot of work. Once the romantic part of the relationship is gone that’s when you find out if you truly love that person or not. In other words, the glamor part of the relationship dies and what’s left is reality… I hope you wait until you’re older to make such a commitment…we all care about you and want only the best for you…
God’s blessings little one…
kamlesh786
On April 24, 2009 at 2:19 pm
i agree with bing they are not prepared
Parish Loveless
On April 25, 2009 at 11:12 am
Very nice article. I think it all depends on the people involved though. Their individual level of development drawn from their experience, morals, responsibilities, et cetera
Mary
On May 5, 2009 at 9:14 pm
It is hard to say if young marriage is good or bad unless you know the couple personally. My roommate got married at 17 (her husband is in Iraq so she is living with me until he comes home) and is now 20 and still happy with her husband. They are financially stable and buying a 5 bedroom home when he returns. I am 20 and getting married this summer to an amazing man (he is 25) and we are both extremely committed to each other and our relationship. He is almost done getting his degree and is entering the Air Force as an Intelligence Officer when I graduate (in about a year). He will be making enough money to support both of us easily and we will have our first house paid off by the time I am 25. The only issues we have faced concerning our marriage is resistance from my family. Other than that, he and I are completely happy and prepared to support one another through good and bad. Society puts a lot of pressure on people my age to prolong their youth into their late 20s and early thirties, which results in the vast majority of 20, 21, 22 year olds still being in the mindset of high school students. It is completely possible for people to get married young and still be happy, mature and confident as a couple. Society makes it very hard for them to function because of discrimination and biases against young marriage, but it is worth it if two people are ready to face any resistance together. It depends on the couple in the end, just as it does if you get married at 25, 30, etc.
Bridgett
On January 19, 2010 at 3:18 pm
i am seventeen years old i graduate from highschool this year and July 30th 2012 i will be getting married.
i will be nineteen at that time, and i can’t wait to get married.
i really don’t think age matters as for when to get married as long as you feel your ready.
that’s all that matters in the end.
nessssa
On March 18, 2010 at 6:42 am
many people says no…bah
Matthew
On November 23, 2011 at 7:27 pm
I disagree with his opinion. I think it is good. Maturity is based on responsibility, not your age.
People think age is what makes commitment. But look at the military! People at 17-18 years old are going to war, laying down their LIVES for one-another! Why? Because the military EXPECTS something out of them. We today don’t expect responsibility out of our children, and look at the disaster it’s creating.