Is Your Man Really a Cheater? Or Could It be False Intuition?

Why it’s possible to falsely and sincerely think your hubby is a cheater….

So many women today think their husbands or significant others are cheating on them. There are just little things that lead to us “knowing 100%” that they are cheating on us! I mean they must be, they are working late a lot, leaving to hang out with their buddies, not answering your phone calls…they just have to be cheating, right?

The answer is actually no. You see women have what’s called intuition.

The definition of intuition is this: The act or faculty of knowing or sensing without the use of rational processes; immediate cognition.

So when women get this feeling in their gut, and if you are a woman you know exactly what I’m speaking of, we are positive.

We use our intuition for many things, and most of the time our intuition never fails us. However there are certain circumstances where we are wrong.

I am not saying that your intuition is wrong if you are accusing your partner of cheating, however I would like to dive deeper into some reasons that you may falsely feel this way.

In the book “For Better or For Best”  Gary Smalley describes a woman’s intuition like this:

What exactly is this “woman’s intuition”? It’s not something mystical; rather, it is an unconscious perception of minute details that are sometimes tangible, sometimes abstract in nature. Since it is usually an “unconscious” process, many times a woman isn’t able to give specific explanations for the way she feels. She simply perceives or “feels” something about a situation or person, while a man tends to follow logical analysis of circumstances or people.

So using Mr. Smalley’s description, women tend to pick up on minute details subconsciously which forms the feeling “intuition.”

Now let’s discuss why intuition could be wrong. If you have ever been in previous relationships where you have been cheated on, your subconscious could be perceiving commonalities in your previous relationships and the relationship you are in now.

So let’s say your ex cheated on you. He used to tell you he was going out with friends, when in reality he was meeting another woman. Well you caught him cheating on you and that relationship ended, and now that you are in a new relationship you are weary of your new partner hanging out with friends for fear that he is doing the same thing. You may not even realize that you have this fear, which is why it is subconscious.

The other way that the above story could be played out is that you thought he was cheating on you but never got the chance to find out for sure, and now you still question the same behavior pattern although you are with a new partner.

This could happen under any circumstances, it may even be new circumstances. However you may be reading into it to deeply.

If you are worried that your partner is cheating on you, just be honest. Tell him your fears, and if you are able to voice why you are feeling this way do so. If you are in a relationship with someone than you should know that trust is a main factor in any long lasting relationship.
Without trust a relationship will not survive.

Trusting your partner is a choice. I use choice in the sense of a verb. To choose is a very active thing. You have to choose if you are going to believe that your partner is being faithful or not. If you choose to continue the relationship than you must choose to shut the “he’s cheating” thoughts up.
They will kill your relationship if you do not.

Maybe you are scared that you will look like an idiot if it turns out he really was cheating on you, however there is no need to worry because if that is the case they always get caught in the end.

Also choosing to respect and trust him gives him confidence in the relationship, and most men want that. When they feel respected they won’t want to stray. A man is hard-wired to want respect, they would rather have respect than love. I know this sounds foreign to us women because we want love, and without it we feel very alone, and sometimes even worthless. Men would rather be alone than be disrespected.

So just remember to think about why you are feeling like he’s a cheater. Could it be that you are allowing your past experiences to hinder your present experience? Put a stop to the never ending stress of worrying and just choose to respect him and trust him. I promise  your relationship will be 100 times better when you show your man a little respect!