Is Your Marriage Fireproof?
Most marriages start off with a strong foundation, but as the years go by couples encounter stressors that can shake the foundation the marriage was built on. Some marriage foundations stand firm and others crumble. How is your marriage?
Recently, my husband and I had the opportunity to sit down and watch Fireproof, the new movie starring Kirk Cameron, from the creators of Facing the Giants. There were parts of the movie that had us sitting on the edge of our seats and other parts that made us cry, parts that made us laugh, and then there were parts that resembled our marriage and made us think about whether or not our marriage was fireproof.
In most cases, when you first get married you go through the honeymoon phase where it is just the two of you discovering the beginning of a new life together. You make time for date nights, get together with friends, and dream about what the future has in store for you. After time, you add jobs, children, a mortgage, and your together time starts to diminish. After more time passes and your children start getting involved in school and with friends, you find that even a simple conversation with your spouse ends and sometimes begins with “The kids this and the kids that”, and you no longer have time for date nights, friends, or dreams. Instead, your time is spent on work, children, finances, and trying to figure out how to make ends meet.
“You never leave your partner, especially in a fire” is a phrase that is heard throughout the movie. That phrase really touched my husband and I, and we started to reflect on the foundation of our marriage and what condition it was in. After watching the movie, we promised to try and repair the foundation of our marriage by making time for date night again where there is no conversation about the kids, work, or finances, and sitting up for an hour or so after the children go to bed just talking about our day.
Now, my husband and I are each in our second marriages raising seven children between the two of us and statistics today reveal that almost 90% of second marriages end in divorce. Because neither one of us ever wants to go through another divorce, we have committed to work together on repairing our marriage foundation.
What condition is your marriage foundation in? Is your marriage fireproof? Would you like to learn more on how to fireproof your marriage? If your answer is yes then please check out these two websites below. The first one is about the movie Fireproof and how you can get the movie. The second one is resources on how to fireproof your marriage.
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Post CommentLorrie
On February 4, 2009 at 1:29 pm
Well my marriage is in the middle of world war 3. Found out my soon to be ex never loved me and just used me for a varity of diffrent things. His attorney is very good and expensive. On top of the abusive marriage I get to go to jail over it. What fun. . . .. . .
Amber Kirk
On February 7, 2009 at 11:53 pm
Lorrie,
First off, I am so sorry! In the movie Fireproof, the man who plays Kirk Cameron’s dad asks if there is any part of him that wants to save the marriage. The same question could be presented to you and your soon-to-be ex. If you were stuck in an abusive marriage to begin with and you are now going to go to jail, this marriage is probably not one that could be saved. But, you could still get onto the website http://www.fireproofmymarriage.com and get the Fireproof your Marriage study and work through it just in case “Mr. Right” comes along. I encourage you to watch the movie even if you aren’t looking to save the marriage you are in. There are a lot of invaluable truths and lessons in the movie that can be applied to real life situations. Lastly, coming from a divorce, I can honestly tell you that “this too shall pass” and you will eventually forget the abuse you have suffered. I hope that watching the movie will give you hope for your own future.