It Was Strictly Platonic

She was my friend and it was strictly platonic until that one Friday.  My wife and I could no longer see eye to eye.  We became emotionally detached.  It seemed as though the woman I fell in love with was no longer there.  I had always been able to confide in my friend, she was always there when I needed her.  She listened to me and never judged me. She was totally different from my wife.  I met her for lunch that Friday; we were discussing the disagreement that my wife and I had that morning.  She knew exactly what to say to make me feel better.  She made me feel like a man.  As we were leaving she leaned over to hug me while saying goodbye, before I knew it we were kissing and one thing led to another.  I never meant for this to happen.  She and I had so much in common; we shared a lot of the same things that my wife and I use to share.

We hear this type of story far too often…
I firmly believe that when you are married or in a relationship you have to choose your friends carefully and wisely.  Men should not have single female friends and women should not have single male friends.  This is only a disaster waiting to happen.  Married people leave the single people where they are ALONE.  I am not saying that the same thing can not happen if you have a married friend of the opposite sex, but it is more than likely to happen with the single one.

You have to beware of those single friends that are so eager to give you advice about your relationship.  They are single for a reason!

Those single friends that are lending you their ear and shoulder are soaking it all in.  They are listening to your likes and dislikes.  All at the same time creating the illusion of being the perfect mate for you.  They will tell you things like:

“I will never treat you like that”

“You deserve so much more”

“I would never ask you where you are going, just come home to me”

“I will not hesitate to love you that way”

“I will have you a cooked meal everyday”

“You are the perfect man or woman”

These are all the things you may be longing to hear.  You may just need your ego stroke and your friend is doing it all too well.

Well, wake up because your friend has just given you false hope.  They are creating an illusion of the perfect relationship with no disagreements and no bad times.  NOW THAT IS A BUNCH OF CRAP!  Within any relationship you are going to have ups and downs.  Depending on the season you may have more downs.  Instead of confiding in your friend, you should be confiding in your mate or spouse.  When you don’t confide in them, you are not allowing them the opportunity to resolve the issue, what ever it may be.  Therefore, you are causing yourself more grief and unhappiness.  If you never tell your mate or spouse what the issue is, how will they ever know the reason for your fading love?  I hear far too many people say, I am not leaving home, but I am not happy either.