Jilted Lately?

It is not always an easy thing-to hide your tears when you are jilted by a lover. But there are ways to dull the pains of parting, so if you are feeling love-lorn, go through this little piece and you will feel a whole lot better. When you are jilted, it seems like the end of the world. A broken love affair leaves you shattered, frustrated, bereft, grieving and in a confused state of mind you are convinced that no one has ever suffered as much as you. It is a sad thing, but it is true, that nearly every one has to come across heartbreak in this world at least once before he dies. Then a question arises, how do you cope with it? What is the best way to deal with this disaster, this shattering, and mind bending tragedy? How can you help yourself to get over it with some hope for future happiness?

Let’s cast a look at our childhood love affair from where some of this thing originate. We often see hardworking girl or woman at a stage suffering for a young man while the young man having satisfied his lust finds pleasure in the bosom of another woman. He would say that after all! You are not the type for him, you are not worth the trouble, you are corrupt or you are a flirt, so be breaks away from you for “convenience‘s sake”. Having accused you and given you all sort of bad names, tells stories about his knowledge of your body and dumps you. What are you to do?

“Forget him”, they say. But you can’t. It is almost a psychological impossibility because your mind and memory will not let you. You might, but one day you will remember him. I tell you, you can’t easily forget anyone you’ve ever loved. Without wasting your time, I will advise you find someone else. It is said than done, but you should try. Just say, “That’s life” and mean it. Time will heal the wound. Take heart and bear the consequences knowing quite well that you must change with time and that women are like chameleon which changes color to any object that comes across it . Be ready always to adopt yourself to any environment. My second advice is to avoid staying at home alone, it can lead to brooding and the more deeply will the end of your affair will dig itself into your mind and the longer it will take you to get over it. Go out with friends but don’t be withdrawn for your friends will get bored with you and you will bore yourself too.

There will be overwhelming temptation to recover your man. You may hook him again but there is only one word of advice to you- don’t try it. This will not work. He may feel guilty, ashamed and irritated or just too proud. Keep your peace, the pain will pass with time; you will meet someone else with magic that makes you think that this is him-the old lover.