Karma in Relationships: Do We Get What We Deserve?

Last month, *Aleks, one of my male friends, was dumped! Man, was he crushed! His heart was broken into smithereens. However, I can’t say I felt sorry for him. No, I am not a sadist. It is just that I think that Aleks got what he deserved.

You see, Aleks is this type of man who thinks that he is a Jogoo, a cock. The kind that will sweep a girl off her feet, take her up to cloud nine and leave her to crush to the ground. Then he moves on to the next victim. Many hapless girls have fallen into his trap, only to have their hearts broken.

It is not that Aleks ever deluded himself that he was in love with *Sara, the girl who dumped him. He is just hurt because he was not the one who did the dumping. In his typical Kenyan man style, he had believed that only a man can dump a woman. He assumed that only men initiate relationships, keep them going and terminate them at will. Apparently, nothing could be further from the truth.

Aleks’ story got me thinking: is there such a thing as karma in relationships? I went to Google, my favorite search engine. What I unearthed is amazing. Apparently, many people now believe in Karma. To some, it means that you will get what you deserve or that the chickens will come home to roost. That means that everyone will pay for their misdeeds.

For all those men, who, like Aleks go about breaking girls’ hearts, beware, karma will catch up with you sooner or later. You can run but you sure can’t outrun fate. It all balances out in the end.

For those who wonder what I have been raving about, karma is the law of moral causation. This concept is one of the fundamental doctrines in Buddhism and Hinduism. In simple terms, it says that, in this world, nothing happens to a person that he does not, for some reason deserve.

Folk wisdom got it right all along; ‘what goes around comes around’. Our present circumstances are a result of our own past actions and our present doings. We ourselves are responsible for our own happiness and misery. We are the architects of our own fate.

Do you seem to be getting all the bad luck? Well, look no further, the problem might be you. Just do some real soul-searching.