Lead Us Not Into Temptation

So, you walk into the room, he quickly clicks the mouse, and suddenly he’s staring at an internet ad for rapid-acting, miraculous diet pills.  Sound familiar?  Should you feel betrayed or threatened?

Actually, neither.  I think you might should feel a little selfish that he feels the need to view it in secrecy.  (Probably because of the tirade he just had to experience when you walked in). 

As hard as it may be for you to believe, it has very little, if anything, to do with you and more to do with himself.  Relationships require constant updates.   You lead him to temptation when you take that for granted.  No matter how close you are or how often you are intimate, let’s face it, you get boring after years and years of the same old same old.  He isn’t usually watching it to get to see someone “sexier” or “younger”. He probably just wants to watch something a little risqué, to add a little spice to your adventure together.  I mean, does he watch them and then get up and leave the house?  No.  Does he get on the phone and call someone else while he’s watching them?  No.  So, is it cheating?  Maybe a little, because his libido gets a jumpstart.  Is it cheating on you?  No, because if you would rid yourself of the shallowness that another naked body is threatening to you, you might actually benefit from it quite a great deal.  Your man needs reassurance from you that you find him just as sexy as always.  Just like you do.  Quit taking it for granted that he knows how you feel but you still need for him to reassure you!

Fantasies come in all shapes and sizes.  Surprise him and try to think of one.  Share it with him and see how close the two of you become again.  He won’t be walking out the door, he’ll be closing the door.  

Or, you can choose to keep feeling offended and betrayed and continuing your tirades, and then yes, you will be leading him into temptation….