Legal Age for Boy/girlfriend Relationship- Continuation

Setting the right age is a good idea. Some said the ideal age is from 18 years old, it’s possible to experience having a relationship for this is the transition period. It is not suggested age but if it comes maybe we would accept. On the other hand, if it won’t come, it would be more favorable.

These days, even if parents want to protect their children, there are too many windows to the world they can access outside to potential harmful relationships. Social networking is one and nobody can stop them chatting on the side. Texting on the hand phones is another way out.

The best thing to prevent all these unwanted love affairs from affecting our children’s studies is religious upbringing and home discipline. Once our children have good values, will be the best protection against failed love affairs.

In the United States there are legal ages for having sex but not for dating and falling in love. People are different. A couple can meet at age 14 and “go together” until they are 18. Then have sex and later marry and live happily ever after. And then there are a couple who is 16, they go together for a year, and within that year they sleep together and after that year is over, they apart.

There is no point in prohibiting it. Studies and relationships are two completely independent matters, and not having finishing studies is not a reason to say “you can’t have a girlfriend or boyfriend”.

The reality is that all teenagers want to experiment. They know a boy/girl that they like and go and start dating, this is normal, and are part of the never-ending seeking for pleasure of all human do. It’s only a myth that they will leave the studies because of it, they are completely different things, and having something useful to do when not in school gives more responsibility to keep the relation.

You can’t simply stop them in doing what they want. In fact, they’ll do it anyway, only hidden from you. It’s always better to have a sincere relation rather than hiding thing from the parents.
You can deny them the right to experiment with their relationship and sexuality, they’ll do it anyway. But you can talk with them to make the best experience for them. For example you’re 15 years old girl is going to have sex with her boyfriend, she’ll not ear you when you say “don’t do it”, but she’ll be pleased to ear “be sure, take care and use condom”. What I’m pointing to is that the parent should accompany their children in their growing stage and life experiences, rather than trying to repress their natural behavior.

The so called legal age is after girls and boys stop at puberty. Girls usually 9 and stop at 17. Boys start at 11 and stop 19. However, in some puberty is prolonged until 21. Besides, there is a marked difference between physical and mental maturity. It is not easy to measure the mental maturity of a person.

The right legal age is the time when girls and boys have attained physical puberty. However, you will have to watch their mental maturity to determine, whether they are mentally prepared and mature enough to enter into a relationship.