Living with In-Laws Before Marriage

Whoever said it’s not a great idea to live with your in-laws before marrying their son was probably right. BUT if you think about it, sampling your future might pay off in the long run. What better way to know the result of life after the wedding than to live with them and see how they are, really well. You don’t only marry the son, you marry the family. No matter how you want to avoid head butting with any of them, they will always add their two cents in. Whether you like it or not!

How to survive the first meeting:

Don’t act so fake, be yourself. Show them that you know how to act comfortable and that YOU ARE! Or else they will think that you aren’t being true only because they can see how nervouse you are. You might appear as you are trying to cover up some sort of secrets. Yes, being yourself comes in handy BUT control how you speak. They will judge by the tone of your voice, don’t do a high pitch either. I know that others tend to make a different voice when talking to new people because they want to SEEM nice. Trust me, I’ve been there and I hate that voice. Don’t be afraid to go in and give his mom a kiss on the cheeks and a REAL big smile to his dad. Do the same fot his siblings as well; remember that they also have a say. If they speak a foreign language and you know it, go ahead. Don’t be embarress, they actually find it a relief that you can speak their fluent language. It also shows that you are not ashamed of your culture as other people today do.

When you start to sleep over:

Please do not walk around in lingerie?! One, that will show that you are after the sex already and two, you just have no respect for their household. Try to keep the volume at a decent level, you don’t want to wake them up from your growling and moaning. Join them when they have a meal and start a conversation, don’t wait for them to talk to you. You might seem shady that way.

As time goes by:

Help around the place and offer to wash the dishes or set the table. If they have pets, offer to take care of their meals and clean up messes. Keep your man’s room clean as well since you spend the nights there. They will see just how much help you are and they will feel more at ease knowing that their son found someone worth keeping. Get a job as well! You don’t want to be a burden walking around everyday doing nothing – wasting water and electricity. If your paycheck allows it, consider paying partial of the utility bills or buy some groceries since you will be consuming them, too.

Getting around the siblings:
They have the looks stuck on you. It’s normal for siblings to wish all these nasty things for their other siblings but when an outsider steps in, they will step in at any moment when something is wrong. Keep your distance because they can take advantage or get a little closer. Talk to them like how you would talk to any of your friends, don’t act differently just because they are your “in-laws”. Don’t talk so much gossips, if they want to then just listen to them talk. If you say trash about other people, they will have a feeling that you could easily talk about their family since you are with them 24/7, you have observed things. So bite your tounge on some things.

The talk:

At one point or another they will ask you about your plans. Tell them the truth and filter out the bad, please.
Let them know that you are serious about their son, you want to be able to help him with anything. Financials and emotionally wise; you support him all the way. Explain how you plan to help him because if yo don’t they will keep on staring at you untill you explain more in details. They actually like hearing good plans. They are parents you know, they want to know how their child will be taken care of.

Fun part?

If your mother in law wants to go grocery shopping or just simply shopping, if she offers for you to go then GO. Great chances is that she will shop for you, too.