Long Distance Relationships

Whether you are a man or a woman, relationships are difficult. We all know that, but hey, I’m not here to bore you. I just thought we could use some context. Well, as you might have guessed by the title, this article is to help all you individuals out there who need advice and maybe even a little consolement about long term relationships. You can read. Yay. And ‘there there’. Now comes the hard stuff. Before we get into the meat of this, I will advise all of you who are in relationships that are either (A) shallaw, aka based on purely physical criteria, (B) less than four months in, or (C) unsure of whether or not you actually like the person, to leave immediately. In fact, you probably might want to break up with your partner at this point, cus trust me, it isn’t looking good. Except for (A). Can’t completely condemn a little fun. But then again, if you were any of the above you probably wouldn’t be here reading this article. Ok, HERE WE GO. First of all, I’ve been in a long term relationship for about 6 months now.

The first and foremost nugget of wisdom regarding long distance is that you must THINK.

Think about how much you like/love your partner and decide on whether you really can’t live without this person, because chances are, you can, and if you can, then this puts a whole new meaning on there are other fish in the sea. In fact, there are other nice, humorous, and attractive fish in the small fish bowl you will/are in. So REALLY think about it.

Secondly. Once you have decided that you cannot live without this person remonatically attached to you, you must consider trust.

Trust is a huge, if not the largest factor in normal relationships. It takes at least four times that trust and contentment towards your partner to feel comfortable with the idea of long distance. Trust is, in my opinion, the most important factor to consider for the main reason that it fluctuates. As you, your partner, or maybe even both of you relocate, you will change and adapt to your new environments, and this change does not always sit easily with all associated. There will be new people you don’t know who will become good important friends in your new lives, and it can be very threatening, and problems may ensue. But because these threats present themselves does not mean you cant work it out. So figure out how much you trust them.