Long Distance Relationships

Thirdly. Be prepared for many many many cold showers.

The most immediate drawback to long distance is that they are a long distance away. Now, while considering it in your head, it probably doesn’t seem that bad. But, you aren’t considering that while you’re thinking about it, you had some kind of contact with your partner within the week, or yesterday. You might even be having sex with them right now. My point is that since youre still attached to this person while youre physically togethere, it becomes difficult to truly comprehend no sex or anything of that nature for a long long time. And this is the cue for all (A)’s to leave. Once you have decided that this person is too important to you to let trivial things such as physicality get in the way, you are ready to start. Now, let me say, the first couple of weeks will seem completely horrible. It’ll be lonely and extremely inconvenient, and From here there are two courses of action you can take. 1 You can either talk to your special friend very frequently through phone, webchatting, and/or IM. 2 You can talk to your partner less often, at convenient times of the day/week for both of you. The drawbacks are, however, that frequent talking makes the distance more apparent as it will come up in conversation, and you will be aware that they arent there with each conversation, making it seem like a lot longer than usual. But their company usually makes it very worthwhile. And for the infrequent communication, it helps make the time youve been apart seem less, though you run the risk of drifting slowly apart. I personally do the first option.

Lastly, the secret to successful long distance relationships is hope.

Now, when I say hope, i don’t mean sentimental garbage. I mean, there must be times when you do actually see each other. So there must be hope in the sense that there should be visits every so often between relationship participants. Try to visit each other in rotations, you visit once, they visit the next time, and so on. This may be expensive so try to plan less trips/longer trips the farther away you are. And I must stress, long distance is pointless unless you know/think it very likely that you two will be together again at some point in time. Other wise it would be like me dating you. Theres just no point or reason behind it. So there it is folks. I hope this helps all you hopefuls out there. or maybe just bored readers. Whoever you are, Take away wahtever you gleaned out of this, whether it was valuable advice or mild humor. Long distance relationships aren’t hard, but they sure as hell are difficult. Good luck.