Looking for That Special Someone

   It is said there is someone out there for everyone but there are so many people in this world today the choices are difficult; unless you know specifically just what it is in that relationship you are looking for. Even then it is hard to find the right person.

   The age old question most people keep asking is where do I search for my special someone? The answer is really up to you, the seeker. You have to know first of all just what it is in that special someone you want most. One of the biggest considerations should be faith and beliefs.

   Some say it is not a big issue but believe me it can become one very quickly if your special someone commits themselves to participate in functions and you wanted to do something else. A few people have found a happy medium in that area but very few. Most people have found no middle ground and their relationship ended or one of them had to give up and give in.

   Many times the person that felt forced to give up and or give in becomes bitter years later and it becomes an even greater issue to be dealt with. Then when children become involved the issue is an even bigger problem then before. Unfortunately it is the children who are made to suffer when their parents argue and fight. Faith is an issue that should be dealt with up front.

   In middle class and upper class situations the parents have a major say in how their grandchildren should be raised unless the children stand firm with their decisions or unless you are tricked into it. Sign absolutely nothing unless you have read every part of the contract and if you don’t understand something don’t just take someone’s word for it, get an attorney to read it and answer all of your questions. Make sure your attorney is not affiliated with the other party in any way shape or form first.

   Back in the nineteen eighties my first ex was in a Catholic family, they insisted I attend Catholic School and sign papers to become Catholic. I read the papers and asked one question after reading it and the Father’s answer was that I would have to raise my children Catholic or the church would have the right to take them away. Needless to say I left the church without ever signing or following through with the schooling required. I was a Christian and believed my children should have the right of choice when they became adults not forced to any one religion. Like my half Native American Grandmother I was more spiritual than religious. But it was in knowing what I wanted that I made my decision and stuck to it.