Looking for That Special Someone

   Sex is a by-product of love not the other way around. A marriage can not be based solely on sex it won’t last. When you are looking for that special someone you generally want that person to be in your life for the duration of your life time. It helps tremendously if you are attracted to one another but there must be more then the attraction for it to work. No one can guarantee a happily ever after ending in your life; that depends on the two of you and how badly you want to make things work.

   If you don’t want a heavy drinker I don’t suggest looking for your special someone in a bar. You might find someone in a coed club, perhaps a local gym if fitness is your thing, Hang out in your spare time in places where you like to relax, that could be a bowling alley, a skating rink, the local library, etc.; you never know who you might run into or meet.

   Be very careful meeting people over the internet, I met my last ex-boyfriend there on a game I enjoyed; a lot of people there are not honest about a lot of things and by the time you find out you get hurt emotionally. Some people turn up either missing or dead because you really don’t know who you are dealing with on the other side. What few actual marriages I heard about between people meeting on the internet only lasted at most five years before they divorced. I don’t recommend it as a good place to look for your special someone. I wish that it were otherwise, I spend a great deal of my time on the internet researching for my stories and books and then writing them; needless to say I don’t go out of the house much.

   Take the time to get to know the person of interest before making any promises. Be sure to check your list of personality traits you want in someone special that you intend to share your life with. Take note of the things of importance about the person such as favorite places to go; favorite color; favorite flower or plant; favorite candy or snack food, favorite foods to eat; favorite music; etc., and write them down so you won’t forget. That way you may be able to give him/her something they would like and or take them someplace special for their birthday, holidays and or just because you care days.

   A gift, even a small one is a nice gesture and a pleasant surprise that will brighten an entire day. It is also a way of having your special someone continually think about you. Someone wanting a real relationship doesn’t want the person of interest to seek other interests thinking you are just not interested in them. Remember there are thousands upon thousands of people out there and most of them are searching for their special someone too.