Looking Up: Tall Girls Dating
by A fun take on difficulties of being a tall girl and finding cute, taller guys to date…
Don’t you just love it when the guy towers over you? I think it is hot. It just doesn’t feel the same when your heights are so close that even sneakers make you look taller than your date. At 5’9”, finding men taller than me should not be a problem for me. Unfortunately, it is.
You see, I live in Turkey where men tend to stop growing at an average of 5’7”- 5’8”. Now, of course we have the basketball players and the occasional lanky guys but that’s pretty much it. Once I watched this Turkish comedian who stood at 6”7’ and all his jokes revolved around how hard it was for him to get a date. (sarcasm) Yeah, I feel so sorry for him! Any tall girl with a soft spot for big men wouldn’t mind hanging out with him. At least she would be able to wear any type of heels she wanted and still enjoy the feeling of being “smaller” than her man. Any decent heel makes me stand well over six feet and let me just say, half of the men I date aren’t from Turkey.
Of course just like any part of the world, there are girls who date shorter guys and guys dating taller women. But that’s not the norm here. In fact, it really grabs attention and gets some finger-pointing. And size has always been a sensitive issue with men, hasn’t it? Men like to pretend they are bigger than they actually are. A couple of days ago a guy friend of mine was claiming to be 6’ and well, when we stood up next to each other, he turned out to be shorter than me. Out of all my girl friends, none of them actually dated a guy shorter than her. There are only a few who dated a guy just as tall, but that’s about it. While some guys actually enjoy parading taller women around –it does give them the illusion of dating a model- women just like being able to look up. They like being the smaller one. It is just a feeling we can’t shake. It might be old-fashioned, but it doesn’t make it any less valid.
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Post CommentAnupam Kachroo
On January 28, 2010 at 11:50 am
haha .. I dnt think height is an issue anymore .. “biggest” star of our country stands at 5.5 …
8Shei8
On January 28, 2010 at 1:45 pm
Well I am short, too short for that matter. Anyways, for me, I am attracted to tall men (at least a foot taller than me) I can understand how tall women might feel discourage. Nice article.
zoeyclark
On January 28, 2010 at 3:51 pm
Thanks guys. You know I am happy Hollywood is giving me more and more tall men to lust after: Gerard Butler is 6′2″ and Clive Owen is 6′2½” so… : ) What can I say? I am not a traditional girl at all but at this, I am. I want the guy taller.
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AlmaG
On January 28, 2010 at 10:36 pm
Wonderful post Zoey. I enjoyed this. I too like that guys would be much taller than me.
Jenilia12
On January 28, 2010 at 11:07 pm
Good post.
Thanks to share this one.
zoeyclark
On January 29, 2010 at 7:55 am
Thanks, Alma:) I think it is just natural for a girl to want to be the smaller one:)
qasimdharamsy
On January 29, 2010 at 11:40 am
Great Post…I enjoyed it….
alensmith
On January 30, 2010 at 4:04 am
dating nice post
Starpisces
On January 30, 2010 at 11:29 pm
Asian women usually not so tall, and we usually envy girls who are tall, but not too tall too, slightly above average (till now I’m not sure what is average) will be just nice for us. However, must also depend on the weight and build. We look taller when are are slimmer, so it’s not really the height that matter, people here are usually more particular on the weight, strange, ha ha…..
Very interesting article you have written, enjoyed reading, thanks.
zoeyclark
On January 31, 2010 at 6:52 am
Thanks, starpisces. Loved your comment. You are right about weight and
built but then again, if you are taller, you can get away with more
weight.
Ha ha, technically, I am not too tall, not next to Uma Thurman or
some Scandinavian girls anyway. But it is depressing that people think
I want too much when I want men to be well over 6′ (1.80cm.) : )
PATRIOT7ME
On April 9, 2010 at 1:58 am
I really must say you a shallow woman and this coming a guy who is 6′1 and I can’t stand women who just want to listen to what their lust tells them. If you really worried about what other people think of you when you are dating a shorter guy or same height as you. That is just stupid. Why freaking care about what they think? Do they control you? No, they don’t. Love is about the heart not the looks but you never felt actual real love because you don’t look for it.
Sharif Ishnin
On April 9, 2010 at 5:02 am
Let’s just say you are in an uncommon zone in your country. You definitely know how the tallest woman in the world will feel like.:)
PATRIOT7ME
On April 9, 2010 at 9:06 am
That is no excuse to be shallow. Looking at a man’s height doesn’t tell you crap about their personality. Want to know why divorces and break up happen? It is either the woman didn’t do a good job of looking for the right man or man didn’t do a good job of finding the right woman.
zoeyclark
On April 10, 2010 at 6:08 am
@Sharif: Ha ha…Maybe not the tallest woman…but close:)
Most of the time I love being in the minority. But when you are in the minority about a lot of things, it might start to get annoying:D
Oscar
On December 30, 2010 at 7:50 pm
I’m a little late to the party but I gotta respond to this.
Sorry Zoey, but I totally agree with Patriot7Me. Your article comes across as heightist, discriminatory and insulting. Hollywood dominates your life because it sounds like you care more about what the perfect society couple should look like and basing that image as your norm. You have issues with short people. Don’t lie to yourself because your first paragraph says it all.
Women like you only try to appear less shallow and insecure by saying you judge people by appearance and not height. You may think you’re being polite, but when you apply these principles to your judgement of men, it wreaks of the stone age. Are you not past the hunter/gatherer/cavewoman mentality of yesteryear? This “princess” like desire to feel dainty, girly and petite next to your tall, shining knight in armor is really old. Ask yourself. Is your femininity defined by your man’s height? It sure sounds like it is! Strong, confident women don’t need a taller man to feel feminine. Thankfully, not all women in this world focus on something so stupid such as height. I’m 5′5 and before you come back at me using my height as a weapon for your argument, do understand that I get respect by all women because I earn it and demand it. I don’t try hard at it because I’m a good person to begin with. People of all shapes and sizes appreciate good people. My respect has nothing to do with short-man-syndrome or any reference to Napoleon either. Ooops, were you going to use that one in your comeback too? So sorry! By the way, a picture doesn’t tell the story of a person and neither does an avatar. And…just who are you to define what is attractive and unnatractive in the dating pool?
Igraine
On January 22, 2011 at 11:10 am
Hey there – had to comment that whole thing too ^^. Being 6.1352 (according to a Meter to Feet converter
) and a girl makes it really hard to find a taller man – most are the same height at max. and after getting in relationships with dumbasses and idiots just because of their looks (tall, slender and long haired was necessary to even get a look from me) I now am really happy with a 5.6759 guy. All I want to say is – I do understand your wish for a taller guys but, even if it really feels kinda strange sometimes, also short ones can make you feel protected ^^.
Best wishes
Sporty
On February 1, 2011 at 12:24 am
Hi, nice post. I agree! I am 5′11″ and athletic and I find dating guys that are attractive to me very hard. I disagree with your naysayers, they are ignorant. You are not talking about discrimination, you are talking about taste. And yes, it is old-fashioned but I would love to literally get swept up my feet/carried into my hotel room after my wedding! But I doubt a guy smaller than me could do that! I also liked your post about tall actors. I hate it when you see a good-looking guy in a movie and realize he’s 5′8″ in real life. But what about Dwayne Johnson? He’s hot! And tall! Take care.
kdwn91
On February 12, 2011 at 4:02 pm
There are too many guys taller than 6′0 in Istanbul. I do not know where you are from, but you should walk around Cadde, Kadıköy, Bebek, Nişantaşı,Beşiktaş, Taksim. Also many girls are between 5′6-6′0. Maybe you are a little older. I know Turks are considered as short people , but it began to evolve with new generations. I’m 5′72 guy and totally the smallest one between my friends.
speedjounetsu
On January 6, 2012 at 3:18 am
can I post ?
Marcel Gomez (Real Name)
On January 6, 2012 at 4:27 am
Well, well , I see it is free to post,
Maybe way too late, but still, I hope people reading this article in the future can read my comment:
I am 155cm to begin with, as I suppose it is important for most people who would like to comment or reply to my comment.
I think it is perfectly understandable that many women like taller man even nowadays, but we cannot say there is a lack of tall men, because shorter men could also say THERE IS A LACK OF SHORT WOMEN.
This is product of the so-called woman revolution. Woman began to be better treated, better fed, got money, took better care of themselves, increased in height, and in the future they may hunt their short men, and there may be a different GONE WITH THE WIND.
However,
Man will still be THE MAN for some more centuries. It is just changing:
- Wasnt it weird decades ago to watch a couple both of them wearing pants, or both of them with short or long hair, or both of them working, or with the man staying at home? Do these make women feel less woman? So, what is this woman (the author) now playing with our heights?
Taller or shorter, with higher or lower salary, THE MAN will still be THE MAN. The fluctuation in height and other factors through history do not have an impact in sexuality. Because there are still many factors that make the male feel like a male and which make the female feel like a female:
- As an asian girl mentioned before, they care about weight. As I have heard, it is because fat means richness. Yes, man still have higher salaries than women.
- And if weight doesnt come from fat, should come from muscles. Yes, men are still physically stronger than women (even shorter men).
- And the most important factor that makes a male feel like male and which make a female feel like a female, and which shall last the longest: MAN ARE CONFIDENT, BRAVE AND AGGRESSIVE.
Therefore,
I agree with the other posters who said that the woman who wrote this article is NARROW MINDED. This is clearly the product of watching too many movies, which block and mold the mind to follow STEREOTYPES. She should turn off the player and know the world better.
Europe, and Hollywood, very nice, but that is not the world.
Man of 180cm or higher, very nice, but that is not MEN.