It is a painful reality for so many people today. The fast pace of modern life does not leave much room for meaningful relationships, even within our own families. Everyone who has ever gone to nursing home witnessed that first hand.

I experienced utter shock when one day superintendent of my apartment building found a body of an old lady in her apartment. Terrible stench bothered neighbors.

She has been dead for over two weeks and nobody even noticed…however loneliness isn’t only old people’s problem.

For many, life consists of their profession only and few hours with immediate family in the evenings if they are not single. How about friends or extended family?

Well that requires some effort but I tell you it worth it.

You have to make time first of all, without spending time with somebody there can be no deeper relationship. Why don’t you arrange a visit or invite someone over?

Show that you care, that it is important to you.

I understand you might be afraid because of some bad past experiences. Maybe you simply did not treat people well. In today’s modern culture we always want to get something out of everything, while it might be good business thinking it literally ruins relationships.

Nobody enjoys being constantly used. It makes us feel worthless when we have friends show up only when they need something. If you don’t want to be lonely, make sure you don’t do that to anyone.

And… yes all human relations are never perfect. There will be always moments when we will mistreat someone or be mistreated. What will we do then?

Most people just finish the relationship without any explanation and that is just plain pride. Have you ever done that? Did anybody done that to you?

This is in fact way too common scenario that feeds bitterness and isolation. The only way out is to apologize and forgive. Not an easy way I know but is being alone easier?

You must decide.