Love Addiction: Love Being in Love But Unable to Commit?
by I have this theory that there is this condition called love addiction, that period (often referred to as the honeymoon period) that people become addicted too. If you feel this is you, or if you have been left behind for another then read on.
You see I have this theory that like sex addiction, there is love addiction; and love and sex do not have much to do with one another on this. I think love addicts have issues that cause them to want the first signs of love and romance to stay permanently, and the only way to do this is to move on from one relationship to another, often in quick succession.
No matter how fresh you keep a relationship, for one of you someone will enter your life and charm your socks off, the things they say and do will seem alien to you, strange, new, better. But that does not mean that the one left behind is doing anything wrong, neither does it mean that the one moving on loves you any less. They can still be head over heels in love with you, and maybe in time return to you. But this is nothing you have done, this is not your fault.
If you have concerns about partner’s pasts, and anything I have said here is ringing alarm bells the best thing to do is talk to them. Ask them if they think they could possibly be addicted to being in love for the opening chapter of a relationship. And the next stage I guess would be some sort of counselling, because while I have a possible scenario I do not have any answers, neither do I know if this is a genuine condition or if it could be cured. What I do know, and I feel passionately about is that this condition is most definitely out there, to some degree.
If you are returning to a partner who moved on and is now coming back, again follow the advice I have given before, but most importantly keep talking.
Another aspect to take into account is that this could have a lot to do with self-doubt, it could be they feel something is lacking. Maybe they look at their parents, and enjoy the feeling of first love and live in hope that one day they will find the relationship that keeps romance charged in the way it feels from the offset.
Either way the most important thing to remember if you are in a relationship and this sort of thing happens to you then take this advice if it happens to you (you’re the one left behind) then look at them and their issues before you begin self doubting, And if you’re the one continuously moving on, ask yourself does what I say seem true? And more importantly do you now realise that you had your perfect true love, and have you wrecked this relationship. I’m a firm believer that within a period of time anything can be fixed. Have some respect in yourself, and your partner and communicate now, while you still can, and if you need professional help… GET IT!
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