Love and War

There are so many of us who get caught up in what we want and need that we become a little inconsiderate of the other people around us.  Communication is key is what we usually hear.  That is true, but i believe actions are mostly appreciated and remembered.

A little gesture like flowers, candy or even some kind of note can bring us so much closer.  If you truly appreciate the people around you, you should not wait till their birthday or a holliday to show them your appreciation.  Everyday we should value eachother.  We really don’t know how long we will have in this world. 

So many friends come to me with problems or cituations that they are in.  Stressed and annoyed by another person.  My answers are usually simple depending on the answer to my first question.  Do you want this person in your life? 

If yes, quit complaining and get to work.  No matter who this person is, there must of been something there from the beginning for you to want to have this person in your life.  Complaining gets you nowhere.  Sit the person down and ask them to hear you out.  Do not  demand or tell them to listen.  You want their full attention.  You do not want them to be turned off by your demands.  Make sure it is a quiet place and get to talking.  Try to maintain calm and speak slowly.  You want to get your point across.  Now, just give it time.  If there is a group of people that you are having a problem with, i recommend speaking to them alone separately.

If no, simply say goodbye.  Do not waste another minute trying to get along with somebody you know will not “have your back”, meaning if they will not stand up for you when needed or when you are going through a bad time and they are not there for you.  Move on and be strong.

Bottom line, love the people around you.  Do more for those who do more for you.  Grow and be a better person and the favor will be returned by those we love.