Love Don’t Live Here Anymore

When we’re involved in a relationship we usually have the expectations that it will be forever. Some of us will even tell the other that we’re never going to break up with them. That’s only because of the freshness of the relationship. That freshness is what leads to falling in love with one another and eventually marriage. What happens when the fire goes out in the relationship? I’ve come to learn that just as fast as you fall in love you can fall out of love with someone. Falling in love seems to be so easy. You put your heart out there to the other person and they take it and pull it in to them to love. What happens when your heart is thrown back out at you? That’s what I consider as love lost. Everyone is capable of falling in love and falling out of love with their spouse or girlfriend/boyfriend. Both sides are very hard to deal with.

Most times in a marriage or other relationship your heart have been hurt so much that it becomes hardened toward your partner. Whether the cause came from being physically abused, mentally abused, cheated on, lied to or some other reason, the love has been lost. Knowing that you don’t love that person anymore now becomes an issue because you have to find a way to let them know. Everybody wants to know the reason that someone is leaving them or divorcing them. Now you have to be honest with them and tell the truth.

Love does not just leave overnight either. Love takes time to go away. The longer you stay in that unhealthy marriage the easier it will be to leave because all the love will be gone. It’s hard to divorce someone when your love for them is just as strong as it was in the beginning. Everyone deserves to be loved by someone and leaving the relationship that has no more love will allow you to start the healing process sooner than later. Don’t dare start to think that there is something wrong with you just because you no longer have any love for your spouse. It’s nothing wrong with that. We’re all human beings with the capability of loving. That’s all part of life. You gain some and you lose some and that’s the end of that.