Love is Blind

Twenty six years of marriage and I thought we were going strong but alas…what one sees thru his eyes is not exactly the whole story.  I married the love of my life and we started out on top of the world. We both had good jobs, worked hard at building a home, enjoyed each others company and was living a good life.

Before the first five years were over, we had three children who became our main focus of life. We made sure they were happy, had clothes, toys…everything they needed. Showed them off at pretty baby contests, let them to play sports, ….just everything you can imagine.

I guess we became so involved in the kids lives, that we forgot about our own. Everything was good while the kids were young and growing up. Then the oldest left home and went to college. I didn’t see it then, but the bricks in our relationship started crumbling. We started having arguments over stuff that never mattered before…nothing big…just little things like chores. Why isn’t this done or when is this going to take place. Nothing major, just incidental stuff. Then the next kid goes off to college. All of a sudden, we have lots of time on our hands and instead of my wife and I doing things together, we did stuff separately.

We were starting to drift apart, yet things still seemed okay. Then the third kid leaves for college and the house is empty. We now started arguing constantly. My wife was going thru empty nest syndrome. I didn’t know it at the time, but she was seeing other men. I had clues about it, but whenever I confronted here about them she always had good reasons for every situation. Plus she was my wife and I believed her despite what others were telling me.

Also, during this time, we started remodeling the house. She hired the workers, one of which she was seeing. My wife’s sister came to me and told me that this was going on and again I took my wifes word.  My wife started drinking pretty heavy. She was going thru emotional distress along with a lot of physical problems that gave her severe pain. Along with the drinking she was taking prescription drugs.

Next she started spending lots of money and buying stuff that I knew she couldn’t afford. She said that she was trading  work  and selling things on ebay and in the weekly trader magazines to get the money. She even showed me some of the stuff…like I said…she had explanations for everything. 

With my paycheck I always paid all the bills and bought food and made sure that the house was kept up. She would use her money to buy clothes and things for the kids and everyday incidentals. I was paying for the remodeling of the house. After twentysix years, the house need spruced up and repaired. It was expensive and my wife kept adding on to the things that needed done.

What I didn’t realize was that she and the worker she was seeing were in cahoots together. He was charging me for the repair work and giving the money to her in return for sex.  That was how she was getting her extra money and on top of that she kept telling me she was broke and I would give her even more. Go figure!!

She had everything going for her now. The boyfriend, money, remodeling…..so on. There was just one problem that she couldn’t control. Her drinking!!! While working on the house one weekend, she started drinking early in the day. That evening we had a cookout. The kids, workers, some friends and me and the wife. She was pretty loaded by then. When a person drinks, it makes them brave and bold. While I was back at the house, my daughter asked my wife and the worker what they were up to. My wife told my daughter about the two of them thinking that she would never tell on her. When everyone had left but my wife, me and the kids, my daughter told on my wife.

I was slammed hard. The love of my life.  How could I be so blind…so stupid..so…….

Anyway, we are now in divorce proceedings and I am finding out more stuff than I even thought possible….how in the world did I miss everything?

Well, I, for one, can tell you that love truly is blind!