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Love Letters: Control Your Emotions, Improve Your Relationships

A step-by-step process to writing down your feelings, and then using them to improving your relationships with those people close to you.

I discovered this technique in a book called “Open your Eyes and See”. The book is about gaining the knowledge necessary for ditching your glasses, and then opening your eyes to a world of possibilities such as faster learning or seeing auras. This particular article, however, is going to focus on writing a “Love Letter”, a term coined by the author.

You write it to someone you know, probably starting with a person who is close to you and whom you have lots of feelings towards. The outline is as follows:

Dear ______,

(Express anger)
I hate it when you…
I don’t like it when you…

(Express sadness)
I feel sad when you…
I feel awful when you…

(Express fear)
I’m afraid that…
I’m scared of…

(Express remorse)
I’m sorry for…
I hope you’ll forgive me for…

(Express love)
I love you because…
Thank you for…
I want to…
I hope…

Love,
________

After finishing your first letter you should feel a rush of energy, like you just took a load off your heart. Not only are you being honest with yourself, you are also uprooting deep emotions you have for certain people. The author of the book “Open your Eyes and See” says that doing this aids in your emotional healing, and helps you on the path of not needed lenses to correct your vision.

Furthermore, he says that you don’t even need to share these letters with the people you write them for. Simply writing these letters every few weeks should help you to heal your scars and improve your relationships. I found that after writing some love letters about my friends, I was able to tell them what it was that angered me or worried me in our relationship. You will also be more likely to express love and gratitude towards your loved ones.

After you write a love letter, the author says you shouldn’t go back and read it. You simply express your emotions on paper, then move on. In a couple weeks, you can write another one, then another one, and another one. You know you can stop writing them once your letter consists of “Dear ______, Love ______”. I have yet to achieve that with any of my friends or family, and I’m not sure if I need to. But the next time some emotions are weighing me down, I’ll be sure to pull out a pen and write a letter.

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