Love or Labels: Which are You Looking For?

The theme song for “Sex and the City: The Movie” was “Love or Labels” by Fergie. I recently added a remix of that song on my myspace page. A lot of people asked why I did I decide on that song. The answer is that that song has so much depth and truth to it. In life, people, even guys, are looking for love or labels. And some look for both. Maybe not as literal as the song, but just as real. People look for love of themselves, their parents, their friends, or even just everyone that they meet. The labels that people look for are a bit more complicated to explain, or even to notice. It’s there you just have to open your eyes more to see it. The labels that people are looking for are; careers, jobs, financial, or where they live. They want to be seen a certain way; successful, rich, wealthy, smart, sexy, and, in general, more than what they are. Words are labels and some people just crave the labels. They crave the happiest that these labels give them, as well as the people that look for love. They are trying to find what they want, and getting what they want makes them happy. They are really looking for happiness, and if they can get from having a spouse, they will. And if the Label Lookers can find it a label, they will.

It’s all about happiness. The Love Lookers, find happiness in others. That could be seen as a good thing, as well as a bad thing. The good side is that they won’t have to feel alone. They love the feeling of someone being there for them, and being there with them. That can be classified as dependence, and we all know dependence is bad. Being, or even becoming, dependent on someone is dangerous. Which is why finding love, and having love is so hard. Can you trust someone to love you as much as you love them. A lot people say no, but what do you say? Could you risk your happiest and your heart on the chance on finding someone who “loves” you, and that you “love”? 50% of marriages end in divorce: Didn’t those people think that they had found the “one”?

Looking for labels could be dangerous too. Although the dependence is mostly dissipated, the risk of becoming too obsessed with the labels, is high. We see it everyday, people won’t wear certain clothes because their not name-brand, or people lying about who they are just for a label of something else, or even people acting like something that they’re not. Labels are addictive, I should know. I am addicted to labels. I’m vain, self-righteous, and conceited as hell. I deal with my label addiction by focusing on the stuff that I want, and where I want to go. Most people don’t have my clarity and they never see how they really act. Which means that never learn. They repeat patterns until the end. Some Label Lookers notice these changes and fix them, like me.

The only thing that I can think that both, looking for love and looking for labels, have in common, is that they both have they same amount of hard-work involved in finding them. They both involved a certain amount of dedication and determination in order to find exactly what you want to make you happy. Another thing to remember is that, rather you’re looking for love or labels, you have to be careful of what you wish for. Your love might hurt you and your labels might consume you. You just have to know what you want before you go out in the expecting to get it.

So which are you looking for; the love or the labels? Which is less harming to the world? Honestly, neither!