Love or Lust

Love, the one word which sets our hearts beating faster, exhilaration felt, euphoria experienced, gives goose bumps, warms our day and thoughts, makes us feel good, prompts one to say that life is beautiful, sends all our senses on overdrive.

The feeling of love I am talking about here is of course that usually experienced by two individuals one which is strong enough to withstand the test of time or bind them together for several years both emotionally and physically.  What characterises the confines of this bond is first and foremost the mutual feeling between the lovers: love or lust; what attracts them – is it love or lust?

There cannot be lust in a loving rapport as is impossible for love to thrive when it is mostly hunger for each others’ bodies which fuels the connection.  Love as per my deepest convictions simply means care or concern, strong probably undying affection, respect, trust and healthy physical attraction.  Lust, on the other hand, does not involve these five essential elements, except the last one of course!  Yearning for someone in a sexual fashion, I believe, is a purely biological mechanism whereby we tend to be swept off our minds by erratic hormonal swings.  It is unfortunate that people sadly mistake lust for love.  Indeed, because the lovers share the bed, it very often happens unknowingly that lust is seen to be the physical attraction required for an amorous association to work out.

Presently acknowledged loving or craving situations relevant in our context are:

• Love/ lust at first sight
• Dating, getting to understand one another, then loving/ lusting
• Marriage afterwards love/ fulfilment of longing

A liaison may be successful be it lust which rules the partners’ minds or love residing in the hearts.  But the former case is certainly not a healthy relationship if a family is to take birth from the bond.  Without doubt, the difficulty here is to know if we are attracted to the person’s features only or inspired by the latter’s company and support as well.  To be able to realize and accept whether it is love or lust, one must be skilled in analyzing the emotions that the other individual evokes in one and detecting the kind of thoughts roaming in one’s head about the concerned person.  One should develop this ability lest we will be prone to the wrong choices at the end of the day.

Life again delivers us yet one of its numerous challenges: giving in to our body need every time or choosing emotional stability…

P.S. Note that the heart is only an organ and has no thinking ability!!  This would invariably lead us to the fact that everybody – no exceptions – adores or hungers her/his brains. Our organs are merely indicators of any hormonal change triggered by our brain nerve cells through the enhanced awakening of our five senses.