Marital Bliss: After the Honey Moon Has Ended
The most common arguments that newly married couples will have, when they occur, and the best ways to resolve them.
Looking back it is hard to imagine sometimes that the lifetime commitment that began with “I do” has turned into an everyday battle of “I dos and I donts”. It can be enough at times to make you wonder why you said those words in the first place. The following is a list of the most common arguments being had in households like yours all across the country.
The Friends…
He wants to go out with his friends after work and you don’t like the idea of it. You feel like the more time he spends away, the more easily he is influenced by his bachelor buds. You resent the fact that your busy schedules now allow for little time together and that he is choosing to spend that time apart that you could be sharing instead. Maybe you just don’t like his friends.
She is a hopeless shopaholic when she hangs out with her friends and your credit cards can’t take anymore. Her friends never have liked you and they seem to almost hiss when you come around and they gossip non-stop. You feel a void where your wife use to be every time the phone rings and you thing of the hour long conversation that will ensue.
Fix it! -Recognize early on that friends are important to you and to your spouse and that no matter how much they love being with you, every body needs time away. Relax and try not to stress out about the situation making it bigger then it is. There are enough other reasons to fight without blowing this one up. If your spouse already has a friend or two that you really don’t like, let them know this as soon as it becomes a problem for you. Maybe your spouse won’t mind excluding them from their circle near as much as you think. Finally, while friends can be great, don’t forget who your best friend is now. (hint: they are likely sleeping in the bed across from you.) While your other friends matter, if your schedule is picking up and you aren’t seeing much of your better half, you should consider carefully what you will do with the free time you do have. Think about the time alone your loved one experiences when you’re not around and put them first. After all, they are going to be there for you forever…after all, they are legally bound.
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