Marriage in the Path of Love

I used to laugh aloud whenever I come across people who used to say this to me. Mostly it was uttered by my friends who did love marriage rather than those who did arranged marriage. May be, people who did arranged marriage thinks they didn’t get a chance to say so.

But let us give a serious and closer look to this issue. Where does the love go for this people after their marriage? Why the path which took them through the beautiful phases of love ends once when they enter the path of marriage? Why the sweet breeze and golden moon turns bored to them? Why? Why? Why? A lot of questions arise in my mind. I used to bang my head to find solutions, when my friends complain. I used to speak a lot to them. Finally, I found one thing common in all their issues. A single common root, for all the problems which was not there till marriage. Though few remains exceptional in their marriage life, this is for those who felt that their life looks ended once when they entered the marriage life.

That root is, “THE UNCONDITIONAL LOVE TURNING INTO EXPECTATIONS”.  Yes, what you read is right. Your love which was unconditional so far now turned into a lot of expectations. When you were in love, you never used to demand anything and you used to be a GOD in human form, forgiving all mistakes of your partner. You never complain about your partner. You used to think that even a little strong breeze can hurt her/him. You spent most of your time thinking of innovative ideas to impress your love. But where these all gone when you get married? When you were in love, you used to show only the good faces you had. Yes you pretended to be good and hided rest of your faces.

Once when entered into a unique life under the bond of marriage, most people start thinking that they have each and every rights over the partner. They can act in anyway and the partner is supposed to adjust. Everything is taken for granted.

Most men, who spent their whole day in finding things to make their partner happy and tricks to get  closer to their heart, abruptly stop this once when they enter the marriage life. They start thinking like saying “My sweet heart”, after marriage may show them like “Hen Pecked”. For few, spending more time with wife is useless and will lead to lose of friends. They used to think, “Anyway I’m going to meet her in home, whatever time I reach there. So why to rush?” whereas when they were in love, they never minded about any friends or their big FriendSHIPS. They expect their wife to understand each and every move of them and act accordingly. The expectations keep growing like adjusting family members, accepting his bad habits, etc…

Most women, who used to keep themselves dressed well and look beautiful throughout the day during their love phase starts thinking, why these all now required. He is mine. There is no need of extras to attract him. The day they enter his life as wife, will start questioning about each and every activity of him. Most women whom I know are not ready to give the breathing space for their partner once when they enter marriage life. I don’t know what they fear for. Or may be just to show their new power? She  starts expecting him to love her only and immediately give up his parents and all others. As wife, she thinks she has more rights on him, and no one should be a deciding authority except her, while talking any decisions in his matters.

In common, both sides, the expectations are higher and the ego clashes are more after marriage. When the unconditional love turns into conditional, the path of love ends and the path of stress and hatred towards life starts, which in their words “path of marriage”.

If you can think “Life is more beautiful and your time to enjoy is less”, then you won’t waste your time in useless clashes and issues. Love is a great feeling, which will make your life meaningful, until your death. Please don’t crush it under your feet, as there is nothing else in this world is worth to it.