Marriage is Not for Everyone, Don’t be Fooled

I never wanted to get married so why did I do it?

Let’s see why I got married. Because I am the youngest out of the 3 girls and the other 2 girls were married so that means I am next. Or how about all you friends after 25 are getting married and you don’t want to be left out of the showers, weddings and that entire hoopla scene. At that point I should have started ditching my engagedmarried friends and looking for people that enjoy being single and enjoy the spontaneity of life. People who didn’t hook up with their high school sweetheart and settle down and get married before they hit 30. I am telling you I made the mistake and I see SO many people make the same mistake. Hence the divorce rate being 50%.

So whose fault is it? In my case I am going to blame my mom and in-laws. Yup it is there faults. I knew what I wanted but I was a sucker to believe them that it is the natural progress in a relationship and you will be so much happier etc etc. Hogwash! I should have stuck to my guns and stayed in the big city working the job that I went to school for and loved. Instead I lost it for a guy that I knew the day we were getting married that I really didn’t love him. But I didn’t want to disappoint my family and married friends. I even told my mom with my wedding dress on just before we were to go into the church that I didn’t want to do this and she was like ‘oh don’t be silly, you are just getting cold feet’. So I go through with the marriage. Now what do I do to save the marriage. HAVE KIDS! If your marriage is on thin ice the worse worse worse thing you can do is have kids to save it. Having children is hard enough on any marriage and one that is just barely surviving it will crush. But I stuck it out for 6 years after my son was born… even had another one 22 months later because my ex is an only child and I think that a lot of his issues was because of being an only child. So I didn’t want my son to grow up like that. Looking back the best thing about that whole relatioship was I got 2 amazing kids out of it. And I meant they are amazing. I am single now living on my own and it is the best thing in the world. Financially I am hurting but I would rather be in this situation then married and miserable. I deserve better and so do my children. When I get things done it is ME getting the done not anyone else.