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Marry The One Who Loves You, Not The One Whom You Love

It discusses the importance of the dominating side of love in anyone’s decision before settling down in life.

Love is called as the other name of sacrifice but, to some extent the expectations are always attached to it. Sometimes, we miss the true love of our life and choose the artificial cover of emotions which is hollow from inside. Trust me, there is no way to return after you cross one phase of life and the only thing which hovers till the end is the regret. The worst part is that worse than the worst comes out even if you try to go back as the situations completely change by then.

I know the scene described is really hard to imagine before it is experienced but once it falls upon someone, the whole life is ruined. The institution of marriage has lost the importance in the present era but, still at some point of your life you choose someone to settle down.

Experienced people always make a statement of million dollars when they say ‘Marry the one who loves you, not the one whom you love’.  It does not mean that the person whom you love does not love and the other way round but, a dominating side is always there. If we think logically, this statement proves very true in the long run. If you marry the person whom you love, your expectations dominate and in the other way, the other’s feelings dominate. It pinches a lot when the person whom you love hurts you and the person who loved you is ditched by you.

The above discussion is not to confuse anyone but to advise everyone to move ahead in life with a wise discretion. One single decision ruins the life forever. Yes, you can leave the person anytime and try to move ahead but, the thorn always remains. You can settle down with the second one, then the third one and may be the fourth one as well, but the dissatisfaction always increases with every new relation, how much ever you deny. The mere suggestion is to understand the relations and make the biggest decisions with extreme patience and after listening to both the heart and the mind. Love is blind, it is true but, do not get swayed by this blind emotion to the extent that it makes your whole life blind.

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  1. Ruby Hawk

    On March 15, 2010 at 5:11 pm


    I would never say marry someone you don’t love. Marriage is hard enough anyway. It should be with someone you love dearly and who returns your love.

  2. Unofre Pili

    On March 15, 2010 at 8:12 pm


    This applies well to women, I guess, but not to men. This is a thought-provoking and well-written piece.

  3. Ranjan Mathews

    On March 16, 2010 at 9:35 am


    With traditionally arranged marriages in India the rule should be, “Love The Person You Marry’”.

  4. sambhafusia

    On March 17, 2010 at 5:31 am


    Great share..keep work on dear..

  5. kimanesha

    On May 4, 2010 at 3:08 am


    I need to share this thoughtful information with my friend because she is going through something similar. Thank you for the helpful information.

  6. Lipstick

    On July 1, 2010 at 9:34 pm


    it could be better sometimes
    i agree with you
    i just hope we always get the best deal
    we love the one who loves us..is it asking too much? “(
    nice post u got here, good one:)

  7. asd668768

    On July 29, 2011 at 3:53 am


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